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Actually they will be more likely to become involved with a man like this.
They see their mother being treated like this and it subconciously is condoning it for them.

this experience will teach the girls that if mummy is a pushover and accepting of that behaviour then its right for them to be too


here you are again turning everyones replies to suit yourself

like the lady said before me, you are in denial

experience also shows that kids from viloent homes are more at risk of accohol or drug abuse when they are older

that sometimes they are hurt, because they want to protect their mother and they may get in the way

that sometimes they are hurt because of something being thrown at the mother may hit them by accident

that the mental scars will stay with the children for the rest of their lives

those poor poor innocent children

what if he hit you one day, no so hard, but hard enough that you topple, hit a corner of a table, crack your head .......... die ??


hmmmmmmmm, no more mummy, but at least they have learnt that, men should not treat women that way

Actually they will be more likely to become involved with a man like this.
They see their mother being treated like this and it subconciously is condoning it for them.

you may not get your head back out of there Dan

He is not physically abusing her. It is mental abuse. She is not in denial. She knows it is wrong. That is why she is working on getting out. She came from a violent home where there was abuse and she turned out ok. Her father drank and done drugs and her mother abuse her and she turned out just fine. But her mother never taught her it was wrong for a man treat a woman like that. She on the other teaches her children different.

mary,
how do you suppose you are going to get on your feet??
I mean what steps are you taking to get on your feet as we speak?
like do you have a job or are you looking for 1?
things of that nature...sorry about the questions I'm just wondering..

She is working on her education. She is about done with it. Then she can get a good job and be able to support herself. Thanks.

I thought you said many times that he is physically abusive?

He is not physically abusing her. It is mental abuse. She is not in denial. She knows it is wrong. That is why she is working on getting out. She came from a violent home where there was abuse and she turned out ok. Her father drank and done drugs and her mother abuse her and she turned out just fine. But her mother never taught her it was wrong for a man treat a woman like that. She on the other teaches her children different.

I'm sorry I forgot I didn't mean to imply you...
I meant to say she..sorry hon

She is working on her education. She is about done with it. Then she can get a good job and be able to support herself. Thanks.

Sorry to be blunt but if you came from an abusive home, and live the same abusive life as an adult without trying (getting a job and being independent) to get out of it, then you did not turn out ok.
We have asked you why you haven't gotten a job but you don't answer. You have also stated that you are still with him because of the good life he gives you and your kids. Are you serious????????
Couldn't you be out looking for a job now instead of asking for the same advice we've been giving you for weeks?????
Sorry but you don't seem like a person in need of our help!




You aren't ok and didn't turn ok.

I honestly think you need professional help.

why are you talking in the third person??

it looks even more now that you are in denial the way you are wording the replies

even if there is no violence and its only emotional abuse, the children are still witness to it

why do you think movies have censorship on them?? its to protect the vulnerable

and children are vulnerabe, the real life they are experiencing now is far more cruel than anything they will see in a film at their age

take responsibility for whats going on in your life, or forever stay in this pergatory you are living

child abuse comes in many forms, and in my opinion ....... children living in such circumstances is abuse too

why are you talking in the third person??

it looks even more now that you are in denial the way you are wording the replies

even if there is no violence and its only emotional abuse, the children are still witness to it

why do you think movies have censorship on them?? its to protect the vulnerable

and children are vulnerabe, the real life they are experiencing now is far more cruel than anything they will see in a film at their age

take responsibility for whats going on in your life, or forever stay in this pergatory you are living

child abuse comes in many forms, and in my opinion ....... children living in such circumstances is abuse too

She worked as a textile worker for 7 years. Then 5 years as a nurse and had to stop that kind of work due to her health and is seeking education for a better job. She is looking to have surgery again. That is why she is not seeking a job. Her health is bad and needs surgery. He provides a home and food. That is good. The treatment is bad. Professional help is there to listen not help you get out of it. They only listen to someone's problems.

I think I turned out good. I don't drink or do drugs. I don't treat my kids bad. I say that is good. I didn't turn out like my parents. That is saying I turned out good.

You don't need an education to get a job.
There are lots of people with no college education but with jobs.
All i hear from you is excuses, one after the other!
If you were really in need of rescue, you wouldn't invest in a college education before you get out of that house? Are you aiming for a managerial job or just a job that will ensure you and your kids won't go hungry?

It is hard for her to leave.
No money.
No where to go.
Can't work.