I don't want to be the strong one anymore!!

Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 8:59 AM CST

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I believe this is the first time I have heard a person say they didn't want to be strong. Why solace is there in weakness?? I honestly don't understand that. I am not being critical, I just don't see why someone would not want to be strong. People respect you when you are strong. Failures and let downs roll off you shoulders when you are strong. No one hurts you when you are strong. You are not disappointed when someone close to you fails, when you are strong. You are your own person, when you are strong!

Yes but we are still human and we do hurt!!!!!!!

That's the misnomer of strength!!!!!!!!!!

We also need people to lean on and take care of us during those hurtful times...also a misnomer...Being strong doesn't mean not needing others!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes people can buckle under the weight of holding up others with nobody there to hold them up when they need it!!!!!!!!!

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ltlmstrouble
Milton Keynes, Buckinghamshire, England UK

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:00 AM CST

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I guess you missed some of what I said in a previous post..
I said I guess it depends on which one breaks it off.. so the person tha doesn't want the break up is the one that gets hurt the most..

Yes Daniel this is true. I am sure I've hurt some men along the way, and I would hate to think I didn't afford them the same respect that I am asking for here.

I apologise if you feel I was making lite of your pain..

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Daniel4021
Somewhere, Tennessee USA

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:01 AM CST

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The point is not whether one is strong or not, it is that people sometimes use it as an excuse to dump on you. I am strong, very strong, but I want the opportunity to be weak sometimes. I need to cry and have someone comfort me too.

I hate to be patted on the head and told that I am strong and will move on easily. That is not fair.

I will always be strong in my job, I have to be or my staff will be impacted. I don't feel I should have to be strong in my personal life too!

That is what I was trying to say with this post.

Yes we all have our times when we need someone to lean on.. it's nice when there is someone there that will let us do that..

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:02 AM CST

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Yes but we are still human and we do hurt!!!!!!!

That's the misnomer of strength!!!!!!!!!!

We also need people to lean on and take care of us during those hurtful times...also a misnomer...Being strong doesn't mean not needing others!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes people can buckle under the weight of holding up others with nobody there to hold them up when they need it!!!!!!!!!

Because we are human...we cannot be a pillar of strength all the time...It's impossible!!!!!!!!!!

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Daniel4021
Somewhere, Tennessee USA

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:04 AM CST

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Yes Daniel this is true. I am sure I've hurt some men along the way, and I would hate to think I didn't afford them the same respect that I am asking for here.

I apologise if you feel I was making lite of your pain..

No need, I know you weren't.. just saying women and men can be equally hurt depending on which does the breaking up..

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all_woman
douglas, England UK

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:05 AM CST

my problem is i met a man said he loved me wanted my children. we got pregnant and then broke the news he has an arranged marriage but we can share him.

but his wife can not know and his family. but he thinks this is a good arrangement for me and his child.

he said i love you and he will always be there for me.

i think the man must need mental health issues checking out

now im left pregnant and feel raped .

i just dont no how to get out of this black hole i am in.

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Tiffanie
Nijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:05 AM CST

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Yes but we are still human and we do hurt!!!!!!!

That's the misnomer of strength!!!!!!!!!!

We also need people to lean on and take care of us during those hurtful times...also a misnomer...Being strong doesn't mean not needing others!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes people can buckle under the weight of holding up others with nobody there to hold them up when they need it!!!!!!!!!

So true.

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Tiffanie
Nijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:07 AM CST

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No need, I know you weren't.. just saying women and men can be equally hurt depending on which does the breaking up..

It makes no difference if you are a man or a woman, it hurts all the same. Well said Danny.

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:08 AM CST

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my problem is i met a man said he loved me wanted my children. we got pregnant and then broke the news he has an arranged marriage but we can share him.

but his wife can not know and his family. but he thinks this is a good arrangement for me and his child.

he said i love you and he will always be there for me.

i think the man must need mental health issues checking out

now im left pregnant and feel raped .

i just dont no how to get out of this black hole i am in.

Well...forget about the selfish bast*ard for one...Consider your child a blessing as all children are and figure out how to make the best life possible for the 2 of you...that's what you deserve!!!!!!!!

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shipoker55
St. Petersburg, Florida USA

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:09 AM CST

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Yes but we are still human and we do hurt!!!!!!!

That's the misnomer of strength!!!!!!!!!!

We also need people to lean on and take care of us during those hurtful times...also a misnomer...Being strong doesn't mean not needing others!!!!!!!!!!!

Sometimes people can buckle under the weight of holding up others with nobody there to hold them up when they need it!!!!!!!!!

Don't want to get in a debate ...I surely respect your opinion. But I will never lean on anyone! I will Always stand on my own. I am a strong person, and if I ever need to lean on another person, I shall not want to exist any longer.

Bur t that is just my opinion!!....I am a Rock, I am an island!

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Tiffanie
Nijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:10 AM CST

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Don't want to get in a debate ...I surely respect your opinion. But I will never lean on anyone! I will Always stand on my own. I am a strong person, and if I ever need to lean on another person, I shall not want to exist any longer.

Bur t that is just my opinion!!....I am a Rock, I am an island!

Shipoker there is no shame on leaning on someone.

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:12 AM CST

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Don't want to get in a debate ...I surely respect your opinion. But I will never lean on anyone! I will Always stand on my own. I am a strong person, and if I ever need to lean on another person, I shall not want to exist any longer.

Bur t that is just my opinion!!....I am a Rock, I am an island!

Yes I hear ya ship...I am the same way...Only because there is nobody I feel I can count on...BUT it doesn't mean that I wish there wasn't someone I could lean on just because.....

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Tiffanie
Nijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:15 AM CST

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Yes I hear ya ship...I am the same way...Only because there is nobody I feel I can count on...BUT it doesn't mean that I wish there wasn't someone I could lean on just because.....

You can lean on me Hugz, you've been there for me a couple of times.

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all_woman
douglas, England UK

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:16 AM CST

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Well...forget about the selfish bast*ard for one...Consider your child a blessing as all children are and figure out how to make the best life possible for the 2 of you...that's what you deserve!!!!!!!!

thank you

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:22 AM CST

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You can lean on me Hugz, you've been there for me a couple of times.

AWWWWWWWWWWEEEEEEE...Thanx Tiff...I know I have someone special I can lean on too...I just don't like to!!!!!!!!

I don't like to burden people cause I am soooo used to handling things on my own...something I have to work on I know...

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:24 AM CST

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thank you

Your welcome...I have raised my 2 kids on their own since they were 2 and they are 16 now...It was tough...BUT not as tough as it would have been had I stayed with their father who was also very selfish!!!!!!!!!

Good Luck to You!!!!!!!!!

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Tiffanie
Nijkerk, Gelderland Netherlands

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:24 AM CST

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AWWWWWWWWWWEEEEEEE...Thanx Tiff...I know I have someone special I can lean on too...I just don't like to!!!!!!!!

I don't like to burden people cause I am soooo used to handling things on my own...something I have to work on I know...

So do I but when you have friends in faraway places, if the opportunity is there...

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bluebabsie
cambridge, Cambridgeshire, England UK

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:25 AM CST

HI BONNIE.....you have mail...xxxtake care xxbabsie

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:26 AM CST

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So do I but when you have friends in faraway places, if the opportunity is there...

Yes very true...and I am working on leaning...Just takes awhile...if I need you I know you're there and thank you for that...Works both ways I am here for you too Tiff!!!!!!!!!

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Daniel4021
Somewhere, Tennessee USA

Posted: Nov 4, 2007, 9:26 AM CST

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It makes no difference if you are a man or a woman, it hurts all the same. Well said Danny.

Thanks Tiffanie

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