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I am a 42 year old, handsome, successful man with 3 young boys 7,5, and 3. Their mom (my ex wife) had a mid life crisis of some sort and left us all. I am semi-retired so I delight in taking care of them. I am not looking for a nanny, or housekeeper (I have one already), I am looking for a soul mate. I am totally honest, totally loyal, supportive, and love to spoil the right woman (read: one that does it in return from time to time)

Here is the rub...and I am expecting some flack over this but I have to be 100% honest. I do not want to be with a woman with children. I know that is hypocritical. To ad to the challenge...I am an 8 or so but I am only attracted to younger (mature please) women who are 8,9+.

I recently found a woman who fit all that and was very interested in me which was interesting because I thought the kid thing would be a huge turnoff. Problem was she failed on the maturity test.

So..the question is......why do I get such little play on websites like this one? I know my photos are weak (I am told very often that I am much better looking than my photos) but...

Is the single dad thing really the deal breaker..do you younger women with no kids just exclude that in your searching??

I dont think that it is necessarily the kid thing. A lot of women love kids and would accept them into her life readily.
I think the problem here is you are looking for a very specific woman. You have so many conditions that a woman reading them will usually find herself ruled out and not even try. Maybe if you opened your mind and got to know some women that dont necessarily fit your criteria, you would find that those things dont matter so much to you.
Sometimes you miss out on some really great people when you have your mind set on one kind of person.

Well, I clearly don't fulfill your criteria but I beg the question...... is there any way the lady you referred to will see this post? If so, it may be rather hurtful, eh? That whole paragraph was rather surplus to requirements really, wasn't it?

Anyway..... welcome! Enjoy the Forums!

what do you mean by you're an 8?????...and want a woman who is 8/9 plus????

you say you are handsome and successful, yet not had a lot of play

well........... ppls opinions on looks and success vary........

youve only had 4 votes

and ppls are not always honest about votes

as you will soon find out if you look thru the pages and pages of threads on here


and whats a maturity test ??

I think I am really discovering a chink in my armor. Some of the stuff I have been through may have damaged my self esteem a bit. I am a good looking guy who is only attracted to very good looking women. It is like..gay people are only attracted to same sex partners..... I need to be with someone I am attracted to and this is my truth. I prefer girl next door kind of natural beauty. Of course all the other stuff (personality, etc) is VERY IMPORTANT. I am not some shallow slob, neanderthal, chauvinist. The looks thing is like the salary question on a job interview.....if there is a match then it makes sense to explore and if not, so be it.

maybe the ego turns them off lol

This all seems too clinical and cold hearted to appeal to me.

I don't really see the single dad thing is the problem.

I'm not really a fan of the "made to order" partner thing. I'd rather have someone who accepted and wanted to be with me warts, immaturity and all.

But good luck anyway and

golly..the last thing I want to do is hurt anyone...OHH..the girl I went out with..no.... no chance

anyway

whats this maturity test

and how long does it take to sit

and if we pass........... do we get a pretty certificate lol

I don't mean to be rude, but I would not class you as an 8 personally. People like different things. One mans 8 is another mans 4.

There is enough difficult finding partners without putting futher boundaries in the way! Sometimes you have to look deeper than just the outward appearance of a person. Someone who you think is a 2 can become a 10 with the right personality.

p.s. Although, I am definately an 8+ myself! lol!

well look forward to your pipe and slippers on your own then...the type of woman you seem to want will have left you by then for a younger, better looking model

and just because you consider yourself goodlooking doesnt mean that everyone does....domi thinks johnny depp is gorgeous...i dont...its all a matter of taste

try going with the flow and see who you do get talking to...then see if something develops.....having such a strict, idealistic quota for who you would like is going to lead to you being here in a years time lamenting the fact that no woman on here has wanted you

Ok, i dont have kids but isn bit unfair to search someone without kids and you have 3.If someone accep your u should accept thairs.Feelings metter

WOW...good luck to you, am sure your going to need it. Not trying to be mean or anything. But your requirments will leave you with very little selection. With maturity also comes the ability to see beauty is not solely bases on the physical appearance, that seems to be something at the very top of your list. too bad. your rating system...if 10 is close to perfect or model material, if your wanting a woman so beautiful, be young and single and wanting to jump into a relationship with a man, with kids....who's main priorities are her looks and ability to look good and compliment him, you should reconsider this thread cuz it makes you look very unattractive. Cuz beautiful or not any women who is mature can see that a person's outside appearance is important, but the heart and soul of a man is calucuated in that beauty....you have a better chance of getting a young, single, less mature woman who thinking beauty everything...best of luck to you anyways...

Ill say it. Your standards seem awful high and you come off as a little full of yourself. Not trying to be harsh, but blah blah blah, good looking, finacialy secure, blah blah....good for you but lighten up some.
Im a 49 year old full time father too. Most women my age have kids or grandkids. Im not an 8 or 8+ and I dont believe in rating people simply by thier looks. My "search" ranges form 35-55, and thats flexable.
You have your own reasons for not wanting a woman with kids, thats up to you, but dont expect them to be flocking to you in droves because YOU beileve your a hot item. Most younger ladies either have kids or want kids. VERY few dont want kids or cant have kids.
Broaden your horizons a little more, step down off your pedistal and maybe you might find a few more ladies who think a littl mroe highly of you.....or hang where your at, no matter to me...

Your post has actually given me a great business idea.

I am going to start a mail order catalogue for men to be able to select women.
I will also arrange presentations ensuring that the women are wearing numbers for ease of selection.
Only women that are 8+ will be allowed in this catalogue
And I will also arrange free delivery within a certain radius

Good Luck, your going to need it

"I am an 8 or so but I am only attracted to younger (mature please) women who are 8,9+."

im still waiting to sit the maturity test

not cos im interested , ive got kids anyway

but i wanna know if im mature or not lol

oh girl..luv u

Thank you for the feedback...that is not rude at all. I am not trying to meet a girl or impress one with this post (I thought that was obvious LOL) I wanted an answer to the question(s) so yes it is sort of cold and I appreciate your clinical reply :) And yes..you are an 8+