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Man, this site is really starting to warp my mind. I can hardly believe I'm giving advice to men to make them more appealing to women here. WTF?


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No. You're being honest, Solid. Don't back off. You are what you are, and you want what you want. The rest of us will just have to deal bitterly with it.

Oh stop with the false modesty, Arabella. You know you're hot (what man doesn't lust for a girl in a tree? It goes back to Tarzan, and perhaps even our progenitor apes, right?)

Another girl with false modesty. Come on, Blue Eyed, we both know better than that.

Maybe he intended "maturity" to subsume "character, personality, morals, interests," etc., Blue Eyed??

Well you said you expected flack and you certainly got it didn't you?

All credit to you for being honest, but I think you're going to find it very difficult to find who you're looking for either here or in the real world.

In my humble opinion, the problem is not finding a young woman without kids, these days many young women make this lifestyle choice either because they want to do other things in their lives which kids make impossible or difficult, or they simply don't like kids very much, no maternal instinct or whatever. My own daughter has always said she didn't want kids and I'm certain she won't change her mind.

Herein lies the dilemma for you though, because these women are unlikely to welcome your own kids with open arms and they are living with you.

I'm not going to criticise you, and to be honest, I wouldn't want to meet a potential partner with children still living at home. Been there and done it, thankfully when I was very young, much younger than you.

Seriously, JG, you may have a point. Being in touch with your feminine side can be a bitch.

Enjoy it, its a major quality

I would argue the thinking part as you clearly missed the point. And..if you were really bored with my attitude you would not be commenting on it. Please bubbles...just stick to being cute. Play to your strengths.

Damn, Yall opened both barrels on him didnt you. Now I'm not wanting to piss people off but I think yall were harsh on the man. He was honest and the replys seemed as if people thought he was attacking them. I reread it again and his replys to some bitter sounding words were polite and yet like a feeding frenzy yall still came after him.This could have turned ugly if he had replied in any other fashion. There is nothing wrong with wanting a person that is attractive to you. there is nothing wrong in having high expectations of the person you want to be with. most uf use pick a partner by attraction first. you see something that is appealing to you and that attracts you to that person. Unless you are able to get to know that person first then that is all you have to go on.And in most cases the longer you get to know someone the more attractive they become. I may be wrong and like I said I dont want to piss anyone off but this all seemed a little harsh to me...JMO...

Oh and Solid ..good luck because it may take a while to find the person that matches that list of criteria.

Now your adding condescending to your long list of attributes??

Watch yourself sweetie, He'll be going after you next....

Here take my hand and run away hes far to witty and smart for us...

Besides your too old for him anyway...but not for me...

I thought we were supposed to be having a deep philosophical discussion here, not just flirting.

But all these hot girls on this thread...damn...it's hard to keep one's mind focused on the larger issues....

Thanks Jan! I was interested in feedback not compliments or criticism and you were sweet to offer yours. Because I have so much joy because of my kids it is hard to not feel bad that your daughter will likely not experience that although my joy as you know is also met with some angst :)

I recall as a much younger man having every part of my life right where i wanted it and thinking the only part missing was a serious girlfriend...and then I got one an whoa..prunella!! Granted we had great times but all in all it was just the same amount of ups and downs as when I was single. I guess the point is...whether we are in a relationship or out of one, have kids or don't, happiness has to be found where we are in that moment with what we have been blessed with.

ambrose what are u talking about???

never mind ambrose..i forgot i said that...ignore pls...you and modesty...hmmm

I dont do deep philisophical...I prefer fliritng with the pretty girls, you can philosophise with this dude all ya want....

"I do think that women could make politics irrelevant. By a kind of spontaneous cooperative action, the like of which we have never seen; which is so far from people's ideas of state structure and vital social structure that seems to them like total anarchy. And what it really is, is very subtle forms of inter-relation which do not follow sort of hierachical patterns which is fundamentally patriarchal. The opposite to patriarchy is not matriarchy but fraternity. And I think it's women who are going to have to break this spiral of power and find the trick of cooperation." - Germain Greer

I like where she calls it, the "trick of cooperation"

taking your meds right sweetie????

i thought he was giving me sh*t..then i found when are why i said it. my meds arent as powerful now.. i have to be tougher...