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Damn, Yall opened both barrels on him didnt you. Now I'm not wanting to piss people off but I think yall were harsh on the man. He was honest and the replys seemed as if people thought he was attacking them. I reread it again and his replys to some bitter sounding words were polite and yet like a feeding frenzy yall still came after him.This could have turned ugly if he had replied in any other fashion. There is nothing wrong with wanting a person that is attractive to you. there is nothing wrong in having high expectations of the person you want to be with. most uf use pick a partner by attraction first. you see something that is appealing to you and that attracts you to that person. Unless you are able to get to know that person first then that is all you have to go on.And in most cases the longer you get to know someone the more attractive they become. I may be wrong and like I said I dont want to piss anyone off but this all seemed a little harsh to me...JMO...

Oh and Solid ..good luck because it may take a while to find the person that matches that list of criteria.

I am a 42 year old, handsome, successful man with 3 young boys 7,5, and 3. Their mom (my ex wife) had a mid life crisis of some sort and left us all. I am semi-retired so I delight in taking care of them. I am not looking for a nanny, or housekeeper (I have one already), I am looking for a soul mate. I am totally honest, totally loyal, supportive, and love to spoil the right woman (read: one that does it in return from time to time)

Here is the rub...and I am expecting some flack over this but I have to be 100% honest. I do not want to be with a woman with children. I know that is hypocritical. To ad to the challenge...I am an 8 or so but I am only attracted to younger (mature please) women who are 8,9+.

I recently found a woman who fit all that and was very interested in me which was interesting because I thought the kid thing would be a huge turnoff. Problem was she failed on the maturity test.

So..the question is......why do I get such little play on websites like this one? I know my photos are weak (I am told very often that I am much better looking than my photos) but...

Is the single dad thing really the deal breaker..do you younger women with no kids just exclude that in your searching??

Watch yourself sweetie, He'll be going after you next....

Here take my hand and run away hes far to witty and smart for us...

Besides your too old for him anyway...but not for me...

Hi DOD thanks but I can't run at my age, just need to get my zimmer

I don't mind a guy that has kids. The last two guys I dated had kids. The guy I recently met and am interested in has twin boys.

My problem is when there's "baby's mama drama" involved. I completely understand being protective of your children as they are in fact your flesh & blood. My last serious relationship (of 3 yrs, the subject of getting engaged had come up), well his ex had a major issue with me being involved in her son's life. I made all the attempts that I could with her. I offered to meet her and let her get to know me as a person and to give her my phone # so she could contact me at anytime, to which she refused. Never mind the fact that her son loved me to death. I took really good care of him when he was here. Making sure he had a well balance diet, playing games with him, etc.

Part of it was the jealous mom stuff. I wasn't his mom, so yeah I was cool and I was fun...So when he got home it was, "Jillian did this" and "we did this or that" or "Jillian made cookies" or "Jillian rented this game and it was fun", etc etc.

All in all I don't exclude men with kids from my dating. I absolutely love children. I don't rush into meeting the kids; all in due time. I do try and feel out the situation with the child's mother though. In the past has she been really difficult with the new girlfriend? I still miss my ex's son. He was a great kid.

Thanks Jan! I was interested in feedback not compliments or criticism and you were sweet to offer yours. Because I have so much joy because of my kids it is hard to not feel bad that your daughter will likely not experience that although my joy as you know is also met with some angst :)

I recall as a much younger man having every part of my life right where i wanted it and thinking the only part missing was a serious girlfriend...and then I got one an whoa..prunella!! Granted we had great times but all in all it was just the same amount of ups and downs as when I was single. I guess the point is...whether we are in a relationship or out of one, have kids or don't, happiness has to be found where we are in that moment with what we have been blessed with.

I dont do deep philisophical...I prefer fliritng with the pretty girls, you can philosophise with this dude all ya want....

Now your adding condescending to your long list of attributes??

never mind ambrose..i forgot i said that...ignore pls...you and modesty...hmmm

Damn, Yall opened both barrels on him didnt you. Now I'm not wanting to piss people off but I think yall were harsh on the man. He was honest and the replys seemed as if people thought he was attacking them. I reread it again and his replys to some bitter sounding words were polite and yet like a feeding frenzy yall still came after him.This could have turned ugly if he had replied in any other fashion. There is nothing wrong with wanting a person that is attractive to you. there is nothing wrong in having high expectations of the person you want to be with. most uf use pick a partner by attraction first. you see something that is appealing to you and that attracts you to that person. Unless you are able to get to know that person first then that is all you have to go on.And in most cases the longer you get to know someone the more attractive they become. I may be wrong and like I said I dont want to piss anyone off but this all seemed a little harsh to me...JMO...

Oh and Solid ..good luck because it may take a while to find the person that matches that list of criteria.

How bloody magnanamous of you. I dont need you or anyone else to allow me to do anything. Im a free thinking woman and I think Im bored with your pompous attitude.

just because I did not address deeper issues does not mean they are not important. I am only addressingan issue or two. Actually I am curious why this is getting everyone so upset. Have you found Mr. Right?? I think NOT!! LOL

I'll be sure to call you when the first Stepford Wives are released...

Good one!!

Still enchanting!!

I gotta get me one those damn cowboy hats!