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Is it safe on the forums yet, has he gone?

It's the movie Shrek in reverse. If you really think about it, Princess Fiona decided to be what Shrek

was and it suited her just fine. She didn't want him to feel uncomfortable being a hot Prince. Seriously, if it

were reversed, how many Princes would allow their lady and them to be an ogre? I think that they would

rather have the Princess because men are visual creatures, as well as having the egos. At least he is honest

about what he wants instead of misrepresenting himself. He may be an 8, but I bet that he is a flop in the

sack. Which would make him droll.... So glad he wants a younger woman,

I'm tired of dealing with jacka@@e@ jmo

I hope so huney, but Ive a feeling this one will be back.....

Well, Arabella, it just might make us all better men (or better-looking), don't you think?

Well, as far as impractical love-fantasies go, I don't believe your desire for a young, beautiful, childless woman rates particularly high. I see it all the time around here...sometimes I even think it's the norm. So many average-looking older guys with much younger, good-looking women. Not sure how they do it. It's clearly practically achievable.

Nor, in terms of ethics, do I see anything wrong with wanting that. Not my cup of tea, but to each his own.

I think its more that fact that you are being so very shallow...(not difficult to work out hey!)

Money perhaps? Father figure?

Do these relationships last? Generally, I think not.

I can only relate to my own feelings when I was younger and to those of my daughter and her friends, much older men are 'pervy' and 'unattractive'. This is a normal feeling I believe, and if they have kids, well no no no!

Obviously being the mature woman I am today, I do not think in the same way, older men are sometimes very attractive to me nowadays!

At last, someone with respect of someones *looking for* preferences

I agree, actually I said something similar pages back, and two other posters if I remember correctly.

Credit where credit's due dear lady!

I find it rather disapointing that someone
who quite obviously has 'mistakingly' posted
what appears to be an extension of his profile
should be torn apart in this way.
He realised straight away the forums were not
what he had thought. He took the flak and in
the main replied in a civil and courteous manner.
His requirements may seem a bit out of the norm,
but thats his business.
I for one hope he is not put off posting on here
in the future, despite his baptism of fire.

Just in case he is still on here.

Welcome to cs and i hope you have fun.

Hi, Jan/Konig --

I think all of us are particular, or have our own special peculiarities, when it comes to romantic attraction. I don't think Solid is so much different from most of us, except perhaps in the narrowness of his "attraction range." Aren't we all looking for appealing people, in terms of both looks and personality? I don't believe that makes us shallow. It's part and parcel of the human condition, isn't it?

Anyone here willing to state *honestly* that they don't care about looks and age? I can't.

first i dont like agreeing with you ambrose...hahaha teasing you!

i've said my piece on what i think of his thread...in reality i guess its good that he knows what he wants in a partner, he has something to shoot for. I on the other hand, no what I dont want...but havent really figured out in detail what i want from a person. I just figured when I found them i would know. hasnt worked so far and obviously havent come across the person I assume I will want to be with. In my mind i figured if i didnt have a ideal person described, i would be more open to who comes along. maybe i need to put more thought in it?????

aaahhhh or maybe not...i kinda like my way of thinking...

With this said solid...go for it and find your dream lady, am sure shes out there...no more harshness from me.

of course i do care but MY perception of being cute might differ from others.

We are all different in our wants and needs and it would be very wrong to created all that fuss just because WE think so.

Having just gone through a number of responses on this thread, I have to agree with Dakota.
The poster, Solidtartan, stated what he is seeking. We may not be seeking the same and may even find it a bit unlikely or even somewhat arrogant on his part, but I think it is far better to know what someone is looking for than to guess. If I receive a flower or an email from someone who is very vague about their desires in a partner or love interest, it is very difficult to know how to respond. If I read that someone is looking for an early-twenties nymphet mute contortionist, I am better equipped to suggest that he might wish to move on and I also know that this would not be someone that I might wish to contact.
I won't discuss the "I'm an 8" statement as I don't believe in public comments about someone's looks (I would not publicly state my opinion even if I thought he was Adonis himself!).
As for him being shallow...well, maybe he is. Maybe he just knows what he wants, regardless of the likelihood of finding it.
And, as Ambrose said, are there any of us that don't care about looks and age? I can't be counted among them, if there are.

Well-put, Blue Eyed.

I've thought the whole subject to death. I'm pretty confident I know the kind of person I want. I'm also pretty sure she's a long, long ways away, possibly even in another country... But then that's part of the price of living in the middle of f""ck*** nowhere.

I take your point, Graham...... but one thing was incorrect, he has been extremely rude to some here!

Anyway, love, are you well? Did you weekend go to plan? I truly hope so!

hey jlb, nice to see you back

fair point

but he did ask this ......!So..the question is......why do I get such little play on websites like this one?"

so ppls gave their answer as to why they think he gets that little play lol

Your right Alison, but i did say "in the main"
I guess if someone is beaten into a corner,
you expect some retaliation.

Was going to visit Trish today, take the dogs
for a walk, but owing to the weather, turned
into a chores round the house Sunday.

Oh well, i can open the door to visitors now.

I guess I took his question from a clinical perspective and if you look at it from that perspective....Well.....

What someone thinks their looks on a rated scale is irrelevant to me. I could say I'm a 6. You might look at me and say, "No way, she's a 4 or 5 max" or think I'm underrating myself, while someone else is thinking the exact opposite. I don't do point scales in regards to looks. I don't rate anyone, I don't want people to rate me because I don't care what anyone thinks of my looks other than myself and the person I'm interested in. It comes down to what you might think of someone's looks could be the exact opposite of what someone else thinks. So, he thinks he's an 8. Fine. To someone, he probably is. What he considers to be an 8+, may not be supermodel quality, but pretty, takes good care of herself.

I went directly to the heart of the matter of the question, which was "Is the single dad thing really the deal breaker..do you younger women with no kids just exclude that in your searching?".

OK, I'm young, fairly attractive, and have no kids of my own. I've dated 2 guys with kids and am interested in a 3rd with twins. It didn't bother me (other than 1 who had a lot of baby's mama drama), which is not a deal breaker for me. Am I interested in someone his age? No, but there are women out there who find the older men attractive. Look at Catherine Zeta Jones and Michael Douglas.

Right. And I suspect no one here would call you shallow, Athens.