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Just wondered, as I was told recently that I was too loud, and he didn't like it!
How loud is too loud!????????

moot point.
I don't normally answer out of the Florida Forums, but this one wouldn't go away.
First off, I think that a guy that can tell a woman to "be more quiet" during sex is being rude.
Second if he's telling her to "stifle" then he's taking a lot of pleasure from her, and she won't get what their aiming for in the first place, and that is "an earth shattering orgasm". I can't imagine a single woman that can get that when she's worried that she has to stifle - the concentration is no longer there.
He's not being fair to her, he's being selfish.
Personally, I've always said that relationships should be mutual, and sex is a part of that... you're not just doing it for his satisfaction, you are doing it for hers too. You can't take the noise, I can recommend a pair of nice, soft ear plugs for you. :)
Just a thought.

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