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Just the wrong women, mate!! I don't have any problem with it and don't see why it would be a problem but.... not everyone's cup of tea, I guess??

Good luck to you, my friend!

Yeahhh!

You dont have problems my friend. Try being your age with little kids. Mine are 10 and 7 at least you can say yours are almost out. Ill be keeping mine for a while. And yes some ladies dont like the idea of "raising" more kids especially ladies our age, They have already raised thiers and are done.
Im keeping my ducks and there are a few ladies around who dont seem to mind but they are specail ladies indeed.
Of course I can also chase the ladies with kids my age....they think Im an old perv.....


Good luck mate..

Hi Eupho Hi Rose...

Hellooo Daaad

I think that sometimes when dating people close to our age, others have already raised their kids & look forward to their freedom. Lets face it, as lovable as kids are , you don't have as much freedom as one living alone. I have kids at home too, but once they leave - lol - I'm done! So I get it when people shy away from me because honestly, I'll likely do the same when the tables are turned

Theres an honest answer for you my friend....good luck..

To me it doesn't matter if the guy has his kids or not. Like others have said, while I had mine, I was careful about introducing someone to them. I also know that at my age, starting over with an infant isn't really feasible and physically the only way that's going to happen is either through adoption...or he was left with an infant.

At least it sounds like the women are backing out before they've even met your kids. That would be even more awkward if you'd introduced them to your kids & then they disappear. That would be a terrible message to your kids. So just hang in there, eventually you'll come across one that's ok with the fact that you have kids & life will be great.

appreciate what you're going through thomas. i have 3 kids. 2 of whom live with me 3 days per week. my youngest is here every day after nursery but only sleeps over 3 nights. i've found that women who have children of their own are quite happy to date on occasion but don't seem so willing to commit themselves to a relationship. i won't generalise and say all women are like that, just my experiences. however, i live in hope and so should you. to be honest, if a woman shuns you because u have kids then she's certainly not right for you anyway. chin up mate, you'll find her eventually

Hi QTee, I understand the mentality of not dating someone who has kids. It makes spontaneity difficult. As a dad who absolutely loves his son, I think that there can be room for both. Kids and a personal relationship. I have my son with me several nights a week. His mom has moved on with her life long ago and I have yet to find the woman I'd like to have in my life. But if I did, I'd ask his mom to step up so that I could have more time to let a personal relationship grow. People close their minds to those of us with kids. They could be missing out on something really good due to that.

Dear Threadmaster,

I do not have my child at home. Difficulty exists in having my child at home, being that I am a shiftworker doing certain weekends and having the mother of my child inaccessible to finding compromising timings when I am off.

Story short, I see my boy perhaps, and if I am lucky, once a month.

I would rather see my child than date.

what a sweetheart!

Myself.. raised my son alone. when women found out he was home with me, that pretty much ended things.
But the women had kids that they expect me to accept.. go figure.

Well, not all woman avoid men who has children... If they avoid its because they dont want to mother figure for them, and want the man all to herself...

I dont mind a man having children..

I have five living with me since 97, and a few girls said if I didn't have kids they would date me, and I think to myself, thank God I didn't hook up with that piece of garbage. Kid's always come first.

Piece of garbage? that is a tad harsh!!

I keep going back and forth on this.

Like on the one hand...
Darn it, I've almost raised my kid. I got spayed for a reason. Do I really want to make a committment that includes children again?

On the other hand...
I know how important of a job parenting is and I highly respect a man who raises his children.

On the other hand...
I'm almost done with parenting and am really looking forward to my adult times.

On the other hand...
Having kids around would definitely be fun. Oh to teach children again and see them learn their world is so exciting.

On the other hand...
That sounds nice about twice a month now instead of every day.

On the other hand...
A man is like 10X hotter once I find out he's a Dad.

Iffin they does, I don't blames them. Them young goats is messy inside the house. Kids get on the coffee tables, up on the kitchen table, they sleeps in the bath tub and eats darn near anything.

Men with kids? it is never avoided by me? As a matter of a fact i have two myself and i wouldn't want someone to treat their decision on me having kids...why would i do the same?














Also having kids(being a man too) it shows us women something doesnt it?

I don't avoid men with kids... I'm actually "drawn" to them... they know how hectic a parents' life tends to be... they are more understanding about the unexpected unavoidable postponements...

that and they ususally have the coolest toys and games....lol

How many hands you got!!!!!!!!!

Honestly..this is life, why should it make any difference....anyone who dont want you with kids is only thinking of themselves anyway.....