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I have a lot of respect of a guy trying to raise his child on his own

I myself have got no problem if a man has children at home, i respect a man for bringing his children up on his own.

There are a lot of us out there that have no problems regarding children.
keep looking, u will find.

Loopy

It would make no difference to me in a friendship, but it does in a relationship. I've raised my child, she's 25 and now it's time for me to be a bit selfish, I am enjoying the freedom of not having those responsibilities and ties... won't be that long until I'm a grandmother and then it starts again!

I think that's a bit rough... I spent 19 years on my own raising my daughter because she came first, but I didn't consider men who didn't want to take on the responsibility of someone else's child garbage.

I have worked most of my adult life to give my daughter everything she would have had in a two parent family, because unfortunately I married an ass who chose to disappear and not take her on week ends or pay child support, so I did what I had to do and regret nothing.

Now that I have a few years to indulge myself for a change, and travel and experience new things without the ties and obligations that a child brings... that makes me a piece of garbage?

i would love to have my children live with me.... they live with their Mum, who is awesome with them.....

Your doing nothing wrong Buddy... it's a case of being patient unfortunately

Sadly; unfortunately women generally avoid men with children; any age. I've seen single fathers at playgrounds having seemingly pleasant conversations or just starting one with a woman, possibly a single mother and single mothers for sure with their children around, until the man's children come up; the woman abruptly leaves; the man looks around as if to say wtf...parks, playgrounds even in restaurants. Get used to it. As one mother told me, "I don't need a man with his own kids, I want one for my own kids so he can be a father figure..." Cold, calculating; you bet, it's the old "it's all about me syndrome; selfish to a fault. That is life, plain and simple. There are many exceptions to this stereotype....best of luck in finding one, or in her finding you. Much to my regret and to my children's, I never did...
I just wasn't fortunate enough as a few of my acquaintances were...

I dated a man with children, even acted as a foster parent to his children after we stopped seeing each other.
It's each person's story & situation.
I've known men with children & not wanted to get within a mile of them.
They had baby-momma-drama & a fog of funk around them a mile thick.
Some get it right & stand as a shining example...
some turds actually do sink.

I don't see any reason why that would apply to you.

I have "met" only one man who is a father. Unfortunately for him and his son they don't live together. But it wouldn't worry me, especially not in this case.

More is the question, if a man finds out the woman he has "met" has children he is most likely to run even faster.

I did meet a guy once who was on his own with 4 quite young (under 11) children and I was happy to be accepted by them all and be there with a few cuddles and a helping hand - it took about a month before I fled for the hills double quick - all he wanted was the helping hand so he could spend his time down the pub with his brothers and buddies

I think he was an exception rather than the rule though.

Definitely not.. and never are!!..... Adults frequently are though ... ...being a responsible parent is admirable in anyone of either sex...

Look at it this way.. the crap is being weeded out.. would you want an unsympathetic uncaring woman in your life

I agree here, I have raised my children and now want some time to do what I want for a change

Yeah...never looked at it that way... I am sure there are guys out there looking for the the surrogate mother types.. ready equipped with apron

I can ask the same question:

Do man avoid woman who have kids at home?

For me that is not problem do you have kids or not, but...........

Hi Trish

They are the ones both men and women have to watch out for.

Lets hope they aren't all the same.

They'll say I don't want a mother for my kids but I want someone for me and although that sounds hunky dory you still have to watch out.

And I am not pointing the finger at the man who started this thread either.

If I were in your shoes I would have it no other way.

A child is the most important part of a persons life, as far as people are concerned.

I dont avoid men who have kids, I have kids of my own. I think the situation becomes hard when the children dont accept the new partner it makes things difficult as we have to stand by our kids no matter what.

I am open to a guy who has kids, its doesnt bother me at all. I have kids that need to be accepted also.

But at the end of the day, my kids will come first before any relationship will, so its a hard situation all round.