Ladies, how do you view the women your guy cheated on you with?

Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 7:26 AM CST

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Kinda always intrigued me. Who gets the blame? Who do you direct your anger towards?

And even if you've never been cheated on, how would you feel IF it happened?

Both....BUT only if she knew he was with someone...If not he gets 100% of the blame...He's the one in the relationship!!!!!!!!

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:28 PM CST

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Kinda always intrigued me. Who gets the blame? Who do you direct your anger towards?

And even if you've never been cheated on, how would you feel IF it happened?

to him

He would have to choose to be bitten up(with his hands and legs tied of course) or leave!

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Eupho
Wild Wild South West, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:49 PM CST

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It hasnt happened yet. but i would think i would blame them both, but obviously be more hurt and resentful towards my guy considering he was suppose to be faithful to me and love me. Am hoping I dont have to go through that...hoping..

I have the hat.. T shirt AND the matching mugs on this subject.

I always blamed him.. because he knew EXACTLY what he was doing.

When it was a woman that didn't know he had a wife and kids.. then I didn't blame her at all..

but if it was a woman that knew... and even worse if she knew ME... then I just think that's the SCUMMIEST thing to do to another woman.. (IMO)..

Even BEFORE it ever happened to me.. I've felt the same.. I am VERY VERY VERY anti affairs.. messing about behind your *CHOSEN* (yeah you CHOSE!).. partners back. Whoever you are.. I think its CRAP.

It wouldn't even cross my MIND when I was in a relationship.

If you want to sleep around.. great .. fair play to you.. I have NO problems with that.. but stay.. or get.. SINGLE.

but if you make some kind of relationship commitment to someone.. then that's how it should be. .. a *Commitment*

IMO

:: gets back off soap box:::

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blue_eyed_blonde
Vinton, Iowa USA

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:55 PM CST

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I have the hat.. T shirt AND the matching mugs on this subject.

I always blamed him.. because he knew EXACTLY what he was doing.

When it was a woman that didn't know he had a wife and kids.. then I didn't blame her at all..

but if it was a woman that knew... and even worse if she knew ME... then I just think that's the SCUMMIEST thing to do to another woman.. (IMO)..

Even BEFORE it ever happened to me.. I've felt the same.. I am VERY VERY VERY anti affairs.. messing about behind your *CHOSEN* (yeah you CHOSE!).. partners back. Whoever you are.. I think its CRAP.

It wouldn't even cross my MIND when I was in a relationship.

If you want to sleep around.. great .. fair play to you.. I have NO problems with that.. but stay.. or get.. SINGLE.

but if you make some kind of relationship commitment to someone.. then that's how it should be. .. a *Commitment*

IMO

:: gets back off soap box:::

i liked that soap box!!!!

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roseofsharon
Casa Felice, Southampton, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:55 PM CST

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My last boyfriend (we did live together at the time) cheated on me 3 times before I had enough...the first one was with a way younger gal..fat and not pretty...believe me, I asked opions...she knew we were together and kept calling me to finish with him...I took a look at how I dressed and sort of became what intrigued him about her...I won that battle..!

Second time, found a pic of a girl in his wallet..devastating...again thought it was me doing something wrong

The third time, was with a women who had 7 children with different fathers....I got so sick to my stomach..yeaha she knew we were together...stopped feeling it was my fault then...had enough of his deceit...

When I had asked him why on earth would he throw away what we had and he said "Not my fault that women want me"...to a point that is true...but I was asked many a time and never cheated on him....you have to know where your heart is in a relationship...we are human ... we make mistakes...we can forgive..but to blame the other "woman"....only if she knew he is in a relationship...sometimes just best to walk away from that

Good grief..... if there was ever a totally unacceptable response to what you had asked, that was definitely one of them!!

You're well rid of him, love...!!

All the best to you!

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Eupho
Wild Wild South West, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:56 PM CST

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i liked that soap box!!!!

hahaha

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ericthall
Asheville, North Carolina USA

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 2:56 PM CST

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I have the hat.. T shirt AND the matching mugs on this subject.

I always blamed him.. because he knew EXACTLY what he was doing.

When it was a woman that didn't know he had a wife and kids.. then I didn't blame her at all..

but if it was a woman that knew... and even worse if she knew ME... then I just think that's the SCUMMIEST thing to do to another woman.. (IMO)..

Even BEFORE it ever happened to me.. I've felt the same.. I am VERY VERY VERY anti affairs.. messing about behind your *CHOSEN* (yeah you CHOSE!).. partners back. Whoever you are.. I think its CRAP.

It wouldn't even cross my MIND when I was in a relationship.

If you want to sleep around.. great .. fair play to you.. I have NO problems with that.. but stay.. or get.. SINGLE.

but if you make some kind of relationship commitment to someone.. then that's how it should be. .. a *Commitment*

IMO

:: gets back off soap box:::

DARNIT.... AGAIN!

well there it is in a nutshell for me also.
i will Agree 100% and always have felt the same to wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy before it ever happened.

so even though we are nothing alike....

and i'am................ not stalking you..... just working my shift until relief comes in

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Fallenangel74
southern, British Columbia Canada

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:00 PM CST

You know it is kinda hard....Well she knew me I was upset( been there).But if she didnt, and he was to blame(wanting to wander) it is his loss. You are better than that girls and it may be hard to pick yourself up but you will be ok again.

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Eupho
Wild Wild South West, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:06 PM CST

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DARNIT.... AGAIN!

well there it is in a nutshell for me also.
i will Agree 100% and always have felt the same to wayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyy before it ever happened.

so even though we are nothing alike....

and i'am................ not stalking you..... just working my shift until relief comes in

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Lagoona22
Bugibba, Majjistral Malta

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:07 PM CST

Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

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Eupho
Wild Wild South West, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:10 PM CST

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Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

I totally agree.

I would be the same.. if someone was willing to cheat (or tired).. WITH me... then that tells me all I need to know about them .

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cherokeemoon
grove, Oklahoma USA

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:10 PM CST

Had it done to me.No hurts as deep as that.It takes a very low bred woman and man who do something like that to another person,especially if children are involved.Its sickening and they will continue to do no matter who they are with.They will also reap what they sow,somewhere along lifes trail.But bitterness only serves to hurt the victim more than the ones who did the crime.Thats my 2 cents

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roseofsharon
Casa Felice, Southampton, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:11 PM CST

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Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

Hi Lagoona....!!

Good to see you. And a most refreshing outlook, love!

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BeautifulEri
Guadalajara, Jalisco Mexico

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:16 PM CST

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Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

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Fallenangel74
southern, British Columbia Canada

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:16 PM CST

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Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

Amen! totally agree

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riyablossom
somewhere India

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:18 PM CST

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Having affairs is simply indulgent, slack, and demeaning to the relationship you are in....it never ceases to amaze me how creative people can get to rationalise why they do it......but it always amounts to the same thing.....those people who want their cake and eat it too...if I found out that a woman that I was interested in dating thinks cheating on her spouse is ok, I scratch that person off my list forever...why??...because they'll do the same to you...it's just a lack of character and guts to stick with one person. Indulgence has it's price....IMHO

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Lagoona22
Bugibba, Majjistral Malta

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:20 PM CST

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I totally agree.

I would be the same.. if someone was willing to cheat (or tired).. WITH me... then that tells me all I need to know about them .

Yup...it's so simple really, innit??....almost biblical.....do unto others...etc.....

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Lagoona22
Bugibba, Majjistral Malta

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:21 PM CST

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Hi Lagoona....!! Good to see you. And a most refreshing outlook, love!

Hi sweety!!!....nice to see ya!...

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roseofsharon
Casa Felice, Southampton, England UK

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:33 PM CST

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Hi sweety!!!....nice to see ya!...

Ahhhh...!! Muuuaaahhhh.....

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PeachesandRay
Concord, North Carolina USA

Posted: Dec 6, 2007, 3:51 PM CST

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Kinda always intrigued me. Who gets the blame? Who do you direct your anger towards?

And even if you've never been cheated on, how would you feel IF it happened?

Slut, Hoe, Biatch, Home Wrecker

(for her)

Scumbag, Hoe-munger, Sob of Buscuit, Arsehole, Filthy good-for-nothing slob

(for him)

guess you could guess by now, I've been here and done this

But I won, had my ex not screwed up (literally

) I would have never met Earl

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