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Previously , i had a thread on intellectual compatibility while looking for a partner. Most people agreed that its required.

We expect to find someone with the same kind of outlook to life, same interests, views and like a friends rightly pointed out to me Ideology.

What does intellectual compatibility mean to you ?
Is it the concurence of views , interests and life's aims or is it the differences ?
Does it matter at all ??

The ability to investigate certain trains of though to such a degree that it stimulates and enlivens.

Agreement isn't necessarily required, in fact a bit of tension can be incredibly amusing and sexy.

Just the ability to think, vocalise, and express mutually.

Learning from our partners is essential, in my view, to respecting and admiring them.

It's cool!

Hope the thread is not buried by morning, as it is a good topic. I'm off to bed now though... Catch up w/ya tomorrow hopefully.

Good questions..

I am hoping just the same. Good night.

Great question Riya. That is very difficult, at least for me, to answer.

So many levels of intelligence.To give you an answer, it really doesn't matter to me. However, a woman who is ignorant is a turn off. I mean, ignorant about common decency and values. For instance, I would never want to date a member of the Ku Klux Klan. That is the extreme, but someone even remotely as ignorant as that would be a no for me.

Book smart, street smart, any level of intelligence is fine with me.

I realise that a lot of times people have not much to talk about with each other .. either due to sheer ignorance or cos its all the same views.

Makes me wonder .. cos to have your own view point and opinion is important to light the spark and keep each other involved.

Riya, another great thread!

It is important to me that he flex his mental abilities. We would not have to share views, per say, but he would have to be open to other opinions and not feel challenged or threatened by views other than his own.

If he was cruel to children, pets or the poor - he can hit the door!

So, yes. Some similar views are essential.

I'm gonna go now before I get dizzy turning in circles.

Hi everysinglebody!

Nice thread Riva

To me, I would need someone that is more street smart than book smart. I don't need someone to be a yes man as I like a good debate. He needs to be non-judgmental as much as humanly possible. Same interests? To a certain extent. There are so many things out there to be interested in, it would probably be impossible to find someone with ALL of your interests, but sharing common one's would be a must. Just like common dislikes.

Yeh, it all matters, but I don't think that you will find a perfect fit. I'd go for a comfortable fit. That would suit me just fine.

Close enough; who would want a mirror image or character/personality of themselves I can't imagine except perhaps a nest of cone heads living in some abandoned trailer park on the side of an unused road.
Ideally, it will be a mixture of both parties who are attracted to each other, love each other and have enough respect for each others character to make their lives together as one and grow together in the same direction.

Thankyou all !!!! I appreciate it.

I was just wondering if its enough to talk endlessly and laugh and joke and wake up one fine day to realise it was just the initial being in awe thats faded now.

To me, it matters that the person has an individuality of his own. His own interests, views , qualms in life .. needn't be the same entirely but with the room to decipher for a long time ahead.

Ideally, we'll end up with a complement, and not a reflection of ourselves.

That way, they provide what we lack, if we're humble enough to accept of course.

Differences lend themselves to a healthy dynamic, if they're reasonable differences within reasonable people.

So true !!

Ahhh! Theres the key phrase describing perfection as close as humanely attainable in a committed relationship: they are a complimentary couple; they compliment each other. Hey, what more could one want...(yes, I know; the million dollars, the pseudo Manor house etc., etc., etc. %) )

" humanely attainable in a committed relationship"

hmm .... quite intriguing in fact.

wish to say some more ??

In the best of all possible worlds; looking on the bright side of life, as it were, a couple who have consciously, knowingly committed to each other in a loving relationship facing the realities of everyday life as equals who will share all with each other, to each other, for each other is, will be striving for forever; the proverbial "until death do you part" that is , to me, at least, the essence of doing all that is humanly possible to attain a couples perfect relationship; perfect harmony ie. doing whatever it takes to make it work in harmony. Is this not what most people want, ultimately out of a committed relationship/ marriage, not some weekly motel rendezvous, with maybe a burger and movie relationship. I stand correcte4d if I said humanely, wherein I did mean humanly...but then again, consider the meaning of "humanely"...if the truly committed couple are ; if they regard each other as fully equal individuals, then it follows that their growing together will indeed be a humane relationship as well as humanly possible; Love demands that harmony, bliss, the pursuit of happiness be merged...or so it seems to me...apologies for going on so much....

Thank you !!

As much as i had thought would be the explanation .. couldn't ask for more.: smile:

No, not at all. I want a dumb pretty blond that has zero capacity for any kind of conversation. Thinks sarcasm is bad word related to orgasm. Giggles at the word "penis". Lives with her parents and cries only when she brakes a nail. Uses words "like" "totally" and "whatever" as a substitute for cursing. Her idea of good time is getting drunk in a loud club.

:cringes:

whatever !!

AH!

I think I have blondophobia

Great thread Riya, Thank you. I must say Soli has taken the words right of the page yet again---