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Think before responding!!! Would you be intereested in a dating relationship with someone who wasn't a head turner? Do you base your reactions on looks first and second the personality. Would you give them a real honest chance and get to know them or blow them off because they didn't meet with your idea of what attractive is. Think of it this way. What if you were to open a beautifully wrapped present with all the ribbons and bows only to be disappointed with the empty contents of the box or open a plain brown bag and find inside the contents to be filled with everything you had ever hoped and dreamed of having inside.You never will know what you find unless you open all gifts you recieve.

As has always been said.."Beauty is in the eye of the beholder". I believe that. I have dated men that were "beautiful" on the outside and they have (not all of them) turned out to be really ugly inside. I have dated men that weren't so pretty but the most beautiful people inside I have ever met.

It's really sad that a lot of people base their interest in others on what they see on the outside.

It works both ways though. Sometimes when I see a man that is gorgeous, I'm not at all interested. Not sure if it's because he'll be too full of himself, or there'll be too much competition from other women, or because he's prettier than me. Bring me an ordinary guy any day!

And yet again I will say that it isnt the outside that counts, BUT there does need to be physical attraction for a relationship to be a total package deal. What one might think is hot, the next may not, nothing wrong with that in the least. There does need to be attraction though, to mind, body, heart...ALL of it, cant just piece a person together so they fit here and there.

ok, im just going to say the the present inthe brown paper bag may have been a better present, but 9 times out of 10 people have to open the pretty package 1st, once they get dissapointed with that enuff times they'll soon realise to go with the paper bag and leave the other one under the tree. but phsycal attration will rule 1st no matter how fair it is or not, mental attraction will rule second and no matter how good or bad the physycal atrratcion the mental wil win. (dose anybody eva understand my riddles)

this thought enter my mind. similiar to speed dating and all these other approaches to organized dating events.
people wear their choce of a pretty box or a plain paper bag before entering the room ...now instead of 5 minutes until you chnage seating arraingements you are given half an hour.... ask answer period then afterwards the bags are removed and you hunt the one that most impressed you.

I just gotta quit thinking outside the box.....

You need the physical attraction, but that doesn't mean they are the most handsome or cute guy around. It just means that you are attracted to that person inparticular. And you just have to give it time to see if you are attracted to them in other ways, like if the two of you are compatible mentally and emotionally.

Pondering this statement for no good reason...

"What one might think is hot, the next may not"

Why is that? Is it because of past acquaintances with similar features? Family traits you're used to? Personality stereotypes? Funny how the mind works.

Guess I'm trying to peg down my own reasons as to why I find some attractive that others may not and vice versa.

Good question really...my husbands looked nothing like one another, one had black short hair and brown eyes, the other had longer blonde hair and blue eyes LOL The men I am attracted to on CS look nothing alike. Maybe there is more to the personality than what we realize? Here we get to know someone through posts and such, just like through a conversation in "real life". Some might be attracted to a larger person, while another would only go for a skin n bones persno. Hmmmmm now I wonder too Windy, like I didn't have enough to think about today! LOL If you ever wanna compare notes, let me know!

if we click that's the main thing, also you can't judge a book by it's covering. i would give them a chance if they were kind hearted , like i said before it should only matter whats on the inside counts and not on the outside that's what makes a special person.

LMAOOOO, no clue why I'm pondering this so hard. lol

I think it's a burr in my ass cause nobody ever agrees with who I think is gorgeous. Thinking back, just about all my major relationships had similar physical characteristics. Dark and stocky, even heavy. (Then there's Winds, lol)

Wondering what makes my dome compute so differently than the stereotypical. The standard GQ, Ken Doll, pretty boy just does diddly squat for me. Odd. But I swear I've tried! lol

as for covers... ever traced a scar, or mole, or kissed a booboo?

That person in the heart and spirit is the love But, while in human skin, every flaw, blemish...is beautiful. makes up what we are in these jackets...

My typical attraction isn't what others would consider OOOOOOHHH either I don't think. I see more a smile, a look? The way a person carries themself. Hmmmmmmmmm

I have a booboo and scars and even a mole...do you love me? wanna be my babe nene?

LMAOOO...Muah!

that stero type that beautiful on the outside and ugly on the inside and vice a versa isn't always true though...i've meet some people who are both beautiful inside and out. And the same goes for the ugly ones

I don't stereotype...

we are who we are, plain, gorgous...whatever. choosing to be vile is just that. choice. :o)

Physical attration is a natural thing. Many times we start talking to someone because we are attracted to them, but we become friends with the person because of who they are. Or, we may choose to stop talking to the person because of who they are. But that first initial spark is always physical attration or not. You are either physically attracted to someone or your not.

i totally agree with you there.

I have found that as I am getting to know a person my perception of their attractiveness changes. So for me i guess it is before they open their mouth it is physical looks but that can be blown all to hell in a 15 min conversation. Similarly it can blossom into into a very attractive flower.

Sad is the garden of the one who doesn't see the beauty in the growth of the seed.

Some people see only the seed nothing else...birds usually eat those...lol

Garden.......plllllth. You're a pansie.