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Been on here for quite a while, fell in Luff (love and lust) with many women. Some called me on it, and I retreated. Scared ? Yes I am. Been married twice and exploited twice. My recent ex., was the love of my life, beautiful, intelligent, she was nominated for an academy award ( Yes in Hollywood) before I met her. She was a closet gay and left me for another woman. So be it.

We all have our personal baggage and we cart it here, trying to hide it to no avail.

I am 61 years old. I've been through a lot of sh*t in my life, yet reading all the threads, nothing has changed. We remain babes in the woods, no matter how old and experienced you think you are.

I am no longer looking for that special someone, yet I miss that special someone. I miss love, that life giving fountain of our basic need. I am trying to justify my present state of being, no matter what I say.

"Being", is a good thing--- GentlePaws

Even a guy like me, who's not known for being overly sensitive, believes that we all impact others whether we think we do or not.
(terrible sentence structure, I know) Whether it's just a kind word that makes someone's day. Maybe taking a few minutes to listen to someone unload about their problems.
We're all here for a purpose. Sometimes we just have to find that purpose. I only came to believe that after watching that "corny" but ever so accurate, "It's a Wonderful Life". (keeping it short...it's bedtime)

Nite Paws..

Hey Paws.

taken where comfort found. We all do the same. i agree the longer you stay the more you see the story repeated.

And as you talk to people more personally you hear the Horrors they have lived through.

Me i have had no hardships I have only had my pride hurt. I loved yes and i loved deeply.

Stealing from a song. I drank from the river of love till the river ran dry.

But we have to remain babes. For each new meeting is a new adventure. If you want love you have to take risks. No matter how road travelled you are the next person is not going to come with any gaurantees. It means dropping all guards and letting them in. If you refuse to do this it will never last, if it happens at all.

I find this place both fulfilling and Frustrating. I talk and have fun interact and discuss. But then I find myself tuned into one, but because of distance, know it well never be more than words on a screen. Leaving me lonely and regretful about where I am.

We just have to find a balance between Virtual and real that lets us live balanced healthy lives.

One day Paws we will both find another but wallowing in self pity will not help either of us attract someone else.

Leo, I'm 'only' 34, can't fuppin' sleep...again, but feel the same way as you.

Part of me recognizes the pointlessness and vanity of it all, but there's a less cynical side that always hopes for the best.

And I guess that's what we gotta do my friend - try to stay positive, as this is the best chance we have of finding some sort of happiness!

To those who have been burned...

I am sorry that life has treated us badly at one time or another in our lives... but with each sorrow comes a lesson learned... some of us being more stubborn than others seem to need more lessons that others...

that being said...

G.Paws... I have been reading your threads... I have to say that you are (IMO) a wonderfully caring individual who has had more than their share of ups and downs in love.... I believe (check out the faith thread.... lol) that there is someone for everyone in this world. It may not be the person we are seeking... (for example... ISO: buxom blond millionare who is a contortionist and can read minds)
but the person you least expect... the person that has been there through it all, thick and thin, has never judged you, who trusts you and loves you no matter what your faults may be... your companion in life.

Take your time and heal, take your time and grow, take your time.... it is one of the few things that we as humans have that we can not put a price on...

Life is a constant state of struggle. I fight to get out of bed every morning. It's that inner strength that keeps us going. A will to survive. Every dark day highlights bright ones. Sometimes it feels like your sorrows will never end but when you realize it's nothing but a chemical reaction in your brain you already have control. You have full control and that's a wonderful feeling

wouldnt it be all so much easier...

if along with the birth certificate...

we got a job description sheet....

of what is required of us in our life time.....how to avoid the pit falls and pain..

scared of love....

not me..

I live for the day when I can put a smile....

on that special someones face..

Can't think of any more to say that could say it better.You guys have covered it all from my point of view.

I've been divorced for 20 years , I married twice,married the same man
twice, he no doubt was the love of my life -- so far-- a relationship between us now is impossible, altho we still care for each other in a way that only comes after time.
When ever we open ourselves up , we become vulnerable , and that is why we get hurt, because we care, Its part of the ride, on that great rollercoaster of life. Still I would rather suffer the downs than stand on the sideline and just watch it go by. I know You already know this, just a reminder.

I agree. You're in my thoughts, GP.