Posted: Dec 19, 2007, 10:13 AM CST
In response to:
Anyone that has children knows that it goes without saying that the "children will come first"...how do you feel when you see someone's profile that felt the need to put that there? Does it deter you in anyway from contacting them?
I tend to categorize them as:
A) they will be spending more time with the children in close proximity than alone time with me....
B) "my children come first" may also mean "above my own wants, needs, desires...." (in reference to themself)
And please...though i do not think there is anything at all wrong with placing your children in priority as far as your life goes....why are you dating if you potentially have no time to devote to a relationship??
I think when u embark on a relationship with a person who has children its important to accept the whole package and children are very much a part of that... I think its wise therefor for a person to make it clear from the beginning that a)they have children and b) they are very much part of who that person is... while that sounds a bit much... I think its very true... becoming a parent appears to change a person for ever... I have no children myself, but three of my siblings have and the transformation is very pronounced, I notice it particularly with my brothers.... they are completely different people now that they are Dads... my big bro even wrote a collection of poetry dedicated to and about his daughter (e.g.. her first steps, words first pair of shoes etc)... for that reason if anyone ever got involved with my brother (if he were actually single) it would be important (and only fair)for them to know in advance what they are taking on board...
