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There is no button for all that I have experienced in life. I don't believe that any of it is right or justified, but I can say for my experiences I am a better mother and a better human being!
So many victims of abuse fall prey to repeating the cycle, abusing their own children/spouses/etc. I have been lucky enough in life to have individuals show me that love should not hurt and a high pain tolerance is not justification for allowing abuse.
Thank you for putting up this thread.
Same here, because of the experience I'm a better mother/person. The father of my youngest one was/is an abuser.It took me a couple of years and times to leave him. And it took me a couple of years after that to become the strong person I am now.
I try to learn from the past and not to dwell on it too much. But unfortunately I wasn't the only victim, my children were a victim as well. And for them I still feel the pain.
I wanted to add that without support it is very hard to do all this. I have an amazing support network.
It is out of fear of money (or better said lack of), threats and no support that people are going back over and over again to the abuser.
