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I've never had a relationship but I have had four dates during the last 18 months. All surprised me physically, well two more than others, as they were so unlike their profile pics.

All were very sweet in their own way but one was an alcoholic, two were old before their time (despite saying they were fun-loving and young at heart, or words to that effect, and one was very nice but there was no real chemistry.

So, having been a little disappointed, I'd much rather meet somebody in the real world than online, not that I think this guarantees a more successful relationship.

I wonder if there is a chance people would carry the relationship to as far as they can and leave it mdway for osme personal insecurity or even say better choice ???

I wonder if its right.

I've never had a relationship but I have had four dates during the last 18 months. All surprised me physically, well two more than others, as they were so unlike their profile pics.

All were very sweet in their own way but one was an alcoholic, two were old before their time (despite saying they were fun-loving and young at heart, or words to that effect, and one was very nice but there was no real chemistry.

So, having been a little disappointed, I'd much rather meet somebody in the real world than online, not that I think this guarantees a more successful relationship.

well, if they take a relationship midpoint as far as they can and then leave it for some personal insecurity, that seems like an excuse to hide the true reason. If a better choice comes along, then it wasn't love anyway.
Both happen in r.l. as well as cyberly.

More often than not the realtionship does not wor for the same reasons it does not work in real life. The lack of an intimate realtionship with ourselves. Smoke and mirrors and strong winds. Lies, to both ourselves and the OP.
Until we clean the slate of our past failings we will contstantly drag our own issues into each new person's life and apply it as a screen through which we examine this new situation.
They fail because we want them to bottom line. Failure is easy as it is what we have the most experience with and succeeding although it is by far the better choice is the unknown entity which we fear so much tha we cling to faded and jaded memories of our lost relationships.

Mark

I have had incredible luck meeting people online. They were all terrific when I met them in person. They looked even better in person than their photos. They were the same online and in real person as far as personality.

After we met in person, it no longer became an online relationship...it was real life. The online part is just a conduit to meet people and get to know them.

It can work as long as the two people involved are willing to put whatever it takes into the relationship to make it work...

one word:
fear

one word:
fear

Sounds good to me.. i am hoping that with quite a few people !!

You party animal!! St Louis should be fun...I hope I can make it there!!

Must be my third or fourth party in life ..

one word:
fear

Help me Riya...I am too afraid to go into the Bible thread....

As I have stated in many other posts, fear begets pain & pain feeds insecurity which causes withdrawal and more pain.
To be afraid causes one to be hurt further by their own actions.



(...this is not my personal issue, btw. I do not fear doing what it takes to make a relationship work, at all costs.)

I know i offered chocklates but they werent lured .. OMG !!!

Help me Riya...I am too afraid to go into the Bible thread....