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Your vision will become clear only when you look into your own heart. ~Carl Jung

Yeah,Our Carl Jung.

Janurary 10

I suspect that if I reclaimed all the minutes, hours and days I've sacrificed to worry and fear, I'd add years to my life. When I succumb to worry, I open a Pandora's box of terrifying pictures, paranoid voices, and relentless self-critisism. The more attention I pay to this mental static, the more I lose my foothold in reality. Then nothing useful can be accomplished.

To break the cycle of worry and fear, I'm learniong to focus all my attention on this very moment. I can turn away from destructive thoughts and concentrate instead on the sights and sounds around me: light and shadows, the earth beneath my feet, the pulse of everyday living--all pieces of the here and now.. These bits of reality help rescue me from "what-if's" and "should-have's" by anchoring me in the present. As I shut out the noise, I am more receptive to my Higher Power's will, and therefore much more able to work my way through difficult times.


This day is all I have to work with, and it's all I need. If I am tempted to wirry about tomorrow's concerns, I will gently bring my mind back to today.

"The past has flown away. The coming month and year do not exist. Ours is the present's tiny point." ~Mahmud Shabistari

Very good thread ladies and Gentlemen,

I have enjoyed reading it. Thoughts on righteous anger? Is there such a thing? Or is it a falacy?

Janurary 11

There is no question life is hard at times. None of us escapes trials and challenges. And some of us truely have more of them than others. So what are we to do whith that realization? We cannot control what happens to us. We can only control how we respond to it. No two paths are the same. Selp-pity is the responce of someone who hasn't learned to deal with adult life. Feeling sorry for ourselves is like having a bucket with a hole in itthat allows our spirit and our strength to drain away.

INstead of reacting with self-pity, we remind ourselves that all things change and the difficulty we face today will also change. What is hard for us today will be easier tomorrow. We will have times of peace and satisfaction. Best of all, when we play a bad hand well, we have peace of mind, our inner strength grows, and we have something more to put in our bank of knowledge.


When I hear somebody sigh, "Life is hard", I am always tempted to ask, "Compared to what?" ~Sydney Harris

Janurary 13

To have a dream takes courage & hope. A dream guides us, even if we haven't let ourselves bring it to consciousnesness. How often do we stop to ask what are dreams are? Do we even know what we want? This path is about becoming the best we can be. It's more about who we become than what we achieve. So it inspires us to create dreams for our development as human beings.

When we take a few moments to reflect on the kind of people we want to be, we create reference points, or beacons to move toward. This gives us a way to measure our actions and our choices. Do our actions take us in the direction we want to go, or do thay take us off course? Are we growing into the people we want to be, or have we forgotten to follow our beacons?


Go confidently in the direction of your dreams! Live the life you've imagined. ~Henry David Thoreau

i've read that, or something similar somewhere before!

so true!!!

Janurary 14

If someone dislikes me or resents something I have done, I ought first consider whether it was I who generated the dislike or resentment. Was it something I did? Is it something I should make amends for? If so, am I inclined to justify what I did when it really wasn't right? ANswering these questions will give me good practice in being honest with myself.

If I was hurtful, and I make excuses to myself for what I did, I am building a second wall between me and the person I injured. Let me tear the first wall down by being honest and honestly acknowledging my fault.

What a relief it is to acknowledge that I am human, that I do make mistakes, and that I am willing to correct them. I can't help liking myself better after the air has been cleared. In solidifying a friendship, I become a better friend to myself.

Well going back to my old Transcendental Meditation days... No one can do anything to you that you don't allow.

Yep

Janruary 15

I need'nt explore how I'll feel about something that might occur in the future. I don't actually know how I'll feel, and it may never happen. So when I feel leaving the present, I'll remind myself that the future is not today's problem.

"Worry never robs tommorow of its sorrow; it only saps today of of its strenght." ~A. J. Cronin

Janurary 16

At times, we have all wondered if there is hope for us. But, in fact, we can all succeed at finding peace of mind. we can all achieve self-respect. The mosy financially successful person may be proud of their achievements but it doesn't satisfy them. By the same token, a major failure doesn't define a person. When we understand our actions aren't who we are, we will not feel trapped by a failure and we can persue the greater prize of becomming a better person.

Today we may be troubled by a recent failure or haunted by an old one. We are embarrased by it and feel we have lost the high regard of our friends. This failure can propel us into greater wisdom and stronger understanding of how to live life with value.


Failure is an event, never a person. ~William D. Brown

Janurary 17

We love competition. Many of us enjoy it in both our recreation and work life. We love to run faster, play harder, stack higher, pound more, sell more, and produce more than our friends and business colleagues. Some of almost seem to worship competition. as a great virtue, above all other virtures such as camaraderie, teamwork, fair play, community service, honesty, and generosity. Any good thing can become a bad thing when it's taken to the extreme. Intemperate competition serves our primitive drive fpr power. Winning is wonderful--but it's not the only thing we stand for.

More important than coming out ahead is coming out with our integrity and self-respect. We preserve our integrity by adhering to the truth as we know it, caring for the welfare of others, and dealing fairly and honestly both at work and at play. No win, no personal advantage is ever worth the price of our character.


Don't believe that winning is really everything. It's more important to stand for something. If you don't stand for something, what do you win? ~Lane Kirkland

Janurary 18

The way we see the problem, is the problem. ~Stephen R. Covey


Many of us have a mind-set that keeps us on a treadmill. It's not for lack of effort that our live's reel out of control. We struggle to move forward. We work hard to manage the unmanageable. But with all our busy efforts, we can't see that we are continously recycling the same problem over & over.

The solution we need may be right before our eyes. Our denial is confusing us; we don't even know we are denying anything. We cannot solve our problems clearly from the inside. That's what friends do for us. They reflect back to us what we are missing. That's why we have to have good talks with others that have walked the same path that we are on. The strongest, most powerful people have wise advisers who show them things they don't know. They accept the role of seeker and learner because that is the way they enhance themselves.

Janurary 19

Today, I seek to become a little more accepting of myself, a little more comfortable in my own skin. Although it it imortant to recognize and admit my limitations and flaws, only my Higher Oower can remove them.

Condemning my imperfections has never enhanced my appreciation of life or helped me to love myself more. Perhaps I can let go of all condemnation for this one day. I will recognize that I am on a spitiyual of self-improvement. Every tiny step I take on that path moves me closer to wholeness, health, and serenity.

If I become impatient with myself, I can examine my expectations. Perhaps I expect this process to happen overnight. I will take time today to acknowledge my efforts and to trust the process. I will remember to be gentle with myself today, trusting that the healing will come.

Life is filled with opportunity,
...and tis the good and bad we must embrace,for all are lessons that teach us so very much.
Choice is always are's...its how we use it that determines much...:)

Janurary 20

I cannot hurt others without hurting myself. This is a compelling reason for taking thought before I release words that might set off an angry interchange. HAve I ever considered that the impulse to say something unkind comes from my own guilt and unease, which erupts in blpws against others?

It may be a momentary release for me, but it returns like a boomerang to increase my own discomfort. Impatience with others only generates their impatience with me.

If only I can learn to quiet my mind before I speak! I do not wnat to act with impatience and hostility, for I know it will react on me. It is a mistake to think this requires self-control; patience can only be aquired by learning to let go of self-will.

Jonathan Swift said: "Whoever is out of patience is out of possession of his soul. We must not turn ourselves into bees who kill themselves by stinging others."

Janurary 21

We can always think of ways to improve our intimate partenship, but usually are best ideas are fgor changes in our partner. We wish we had a more generous attitude from our partner; we wish we had a more agreeable partner-someone who was more fun or who would lose weight-and we want more sexual pleasure. But these ideas are the easy ones to think of. The harder and more effective ideas are those that call for changes in ourselves.

We enter into a life partnership. We take pleasure in each other's lives and we are on the sane team. But we don't walk in the same footsteps because we all need to stand on our own as adults. Intimacy is not the merging of personalities but the bridge between seperate people. Once we have our adult seperateness, we can be more intimate, more loving, and more generous with each other.

"Where there is great love, there are always wishes." ~Willa Cather

If one does not step a foot out ... they will get nowhere ....

after the first step ... the second is easier ... then the third even more easy ... until one day ... u ride the wind ... take the world by the horns ... ride the wind ... and eventually meet the other that rides the wind with u ....

you r the center of the universe .. u do not revolve around the world ... the world revolves around u ..

take it ... its yours !!!!

"FOR ME", I am no longer the center of the universe. The world no longer revolves around me, me, me, although it used to.

Today, I am but one small grain of sand on the wonderful beach of life. Other people are the waves that wash over me, they clense me and keep me moving on this journey known as life.

6. Maintain Universal Flow. When someone gives, it is an act of generosity to receive. For in giving, there is something gained.