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I, like a few others here, feel that my needs are being met...and this encompasses a wide variety of needs. It is the wants that aren't being satisfied. I am not wanting someone based on shallow or superficial qualities; I want someone in my life whose character and wit and intelligence and demeanor (etc.) are in tune with mine (not identical...in sync) and whose company I adore and who feels the same about me. I don't NEED this....but I definitely want this. I guess I just view a need as something you MUST have (food, clothing, shelter, for example). Wants are wish-lists; I will survive without them, I will carry on and endure and thrive and succeed or fail, etc., but, DAMN!!! It sure would be nice to have what I want!

In the past, what I have wanted has usually turned out to be very unhealthy for me.

I just want someone with a pulse....
Good pulse=good heart....

Helloo MB ..

Hi Riya

For me, what i " need " i am pretty capable of getting it for myself or rather would see to it i am. I dont like the feeling of having someone to make him suit or meet my needs and vice-versa.

But i want someone to want me to be a part of his life irreplacable and never get tired of it. Same way i would like to feel about the person too.
Now in this kind of want situation the feeling of needing each other acquires a different perspective .

I need to be secure about the relation and not be obsessed about the " feeling " of being together. I am just not willing to make a fool out of anyone.

Neither for me.

What if your needs or wants changes as time goes by? And what if your partners needs or wants doesn’t? Then what? What you want or need today is not necessarily what you desire tomorrow.

I think riya came close to somewhat of a logical answer.

IF initially the clarity of thought has been used to build the foundation i think later on the understanding and concern for each other is enough to drive the relation even if the needs and wants change but bearing in mind that the 2 people are going to be there for each other unconditionally as true love is supposed to be.

Cos as we grow the need to be with someone is as great as wanting that someone to be there. so .. understanding oneself halps keep the other person and the relation at ease.

The saying

..." we always get what we need,not always what we want"

So there fore are we not complete,or should be,with who we are,there fore making it a want......

I, like a few others here, feel that my needs are being met...and this encompasses a wide variety of needs. It is the wants that aren't being satisfied. I am not wanting someone based on shallow or superficial qualities; I want someone in my life whose character and wit and intelligence and demeanor (etc.) are in tune with mine (not identical...in sync) and whose company I adore and who feels the same about me. I don't NEED this....but I definitely want this. I guess I just view a need as something you MUST have (food, clothing, shelter, for example). Wants are wish-lists; I will survive without them, I will carry on and endure and thrive and succeed or fail, etc., but, DAMN!!! It sure would be nice to have what I want!

You think anyone is ever complete?

You think anyone is ever complete?