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Phobias. Fears.
What are you afraid of? I had a very interesting conversation this evening with a friend (a man) who is a commitment-phobe. Every woman he has a relationship with is in a relationship that is almost destined to die a rather sad and painful death because, in his own words, he can only go so far and then he freezes up and starts to drive her away (whoever the "her" is). In this case, the "her" is a good friend of mine, and so is he. She loves him. He loves her. Yet he is starting to do things that will surely sabotage their relationship. And he recognizes this as a pattern within himself that he says he doesn't like but yet cannot rid himself of. So, I wonder....do we have fears (phobias) that we truly cannot escape, or are there things that we fear and yet we find comfort in them as well? Are our fears so strong that we cannot rid ourselves of them, or do we simply embrace our fears? (i.e., we do not WANT to do something, so we claim to be afraid of it?) Is it easier or better to simply take our phobias and adapt our lives around them, or should we not try to fight them? I ask this question as one who has many fears of my own (none of which I shall try to conquer), but they do not involve human interaction or love or commitment. I am afraid of dentists, roller coasters, snakes, heights, and a few other things, but nothing scares me about dealing with men. I wonder, I am perplexed at times, I doubt some things, I question myself, etc....but I am not scared. What about you? Do you fear interaction with men/women (beyond the superficial or the easy lay)? Are you phobic? What do you fear?

Snakes & and an angry woman.......................But not in that order..

Just Heights, But I have to have the window seat on a plane

I hope your fears don't include masked men, J.

I don't know if it's exactly a phobia, but I fear (among many other things) dying before I've accomplished what I wish to accomplish. Nietzsche perhaps said it best: "Die at the right time."

Damn, there's only like four people on CS who have fears? I'm impressed!

Snakes and heights if you must know...

I do not have a fear of heights but I am scared to death to stand on a mountain cliff and look down. If I lay down, I am ok. I know its crazy and even I can't figure it out.

Thanks, H&H! And we do have to know, otherwise how can we have any fun trying to scare each other?

Well ya...It's no fun when you can't terrorize each other!!!!!!

My phobia is flying ,heights dont bother me that much but thought of flying I just panic..

I'm the opposite...can fly yet afraid of heights...As long as I don't look out the window on take-off or landing I'm fine!!!!!!!!!!

It's when I can identify how high I am up by seeing the ground...I freak!!!!!!!

Androphobia........Just my luck.

And, knowing the Greek language to a workable degree, I understand exactly what you are saying!

snakes, rats, heights (unless there's something extremely solid to attach myself to~, women, IRS. Well, that's a start~

Did that happen after you ran into a masked guy with duct tape, by any chance, Bubbles?

I just knew a woman would know what I was talking about.

Fear of getting lost- driving.

But, I fly all over the world. I have been fortunate to have
nice people drive me to the airport.

Can't figure it out. (??)

fear that if i get too excited the blood loss may cause me to pass out

not afraid of the normal stuff
do not fear heights,spiders,snakes,furry animals,clowns,enclosed spaces,etc etc

the only thing i can think of when i think fear is being in total darkness Including Dark Water and hear or feel a noise or something brush me...
I fear of dying and Not knowing before hand what killed me... Weird maybe?
But it is my only fear.

I have climbed towers when i worked as a Cable TV contractor over 300ft with just a lock wheel and a safety waist strap.
Crawled under homes with snakeskins hanging out of the insulation and plumbing.
Met many furry animals in and under buildings and homes.
Spiders i have wiped hundreds off my clothing...
Bees,scorpions,fire ants all kinds of insects or bugs...

And i have dealt with many clowns in and out of costumes...LOL

Oooo no, that was the exception to the rule. I liked him.

i'm the opposite, can fly but deathly afraid of heights, actually used to fly a small plane...