Ok...be patient with me on this one!

Ambrose2007
Badger, South Dakota USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:34 PM CST

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by Maria1974:

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My ideal match is a man who stimulates me intellectually, ..... and who also seeks a partner who will stimulate him intellectually.

That would be a dream come true, wouldn't it.

P.S. I'm a newbie here and this forum (as well as the site) looks like a lot of fun. I probably won't be a frequent poster but it's interesting to read all the opinions.

Greetings, Audrys. I'm glad to see you that you've pulled yourself away from dog-breeding to join us! I never found that to be an easy thing when I was raising werewolves...

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EastbayRay
Limassol, Limassol Cyprus

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:35 PM CST

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not sure about the narcissism.. but I am beginning to realise that I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else.. love to be challenged... have a family of people with genius IQ's (dads side of the family) perhaps it stems from that.. and perhaps that is why I am still single

'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

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blue_eyed_blonde
Vinton, Iowa USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:36 PM CST

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Oh, you're one of those kinky duct-tape types. I get it.

Myself, I just believe in keeping erotic pleasures simple and straightforward. Call me a fuddy-duddy if you must. Harrummph!

aaawww you offered the duct tape...i was just expressing my inner desires...

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AudrysSis
Riga, Riga Latvia

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:37 PM CST

You mean yours could breed all year round?!

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AudrysSis
Riga, Riga Latvia

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:38 PM CST

That ^ post was in response to Ambrose.... LOL

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Aries01
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:41 PM CST

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I haven't. Fear-based decision. Brain already too warped by "natural high."

good for you...

only way to go... the reason I feel so passionately about this is I am a criminal defence lawyer and see at first hand just how destructive drugs can be... I have one client (thankfully clean now.. trying to convince her to become a councillor)... who after about 12 years of drug abuse... is HIV positive, nearly had to get a limb amputated due to severe circulation problems caused by Deep vein thrombosis and severe infections caused by absesses.... lost her children, her family.. and is now is just so relieved that she is alive... I also met a girl when I was on the party scene in London.. who popped down to the Loos to give a man a BJ cause she had run out of money and needed a line... drugs don't see social boundaries.. it affects everyone.. I hope I never live to see them legalised....

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AutumR
over looking a meadow, Louth Ireland

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:42 PM CST

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When I was younger I use to "dumb" myself down, but as I have matured I refuse to do such a thing. Man or woman can either accept me for who I am or walk away, no loss to me. Someone that really wants to get to know me will except me for who I am.

No, I rarely put up with the sleazy comments, unless they are made in good humor, where we are both aware that it is meant to be funny and not derogitory.

No offence taken by your wording, IMO you asked a great question!

~~~Same here!!!

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Detente
North West, England UK

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:42 PM CST

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'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

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Detente
North West, England UK

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:43 PM CST

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good for you... only way to go... the reason I feel so passionately about this is I am a criminal defence lawyer and see at first hand just how destructive drugs can be... I have one client (thankfully clean now.. trying to convince her to become a councillor)... who after about 12 years of drug abuse... is HIV positive, nearly had to get a limb amputated due to severe circulation problems caused by Deep vein thrombosis and severe infections caused by absesses.... lost her children, her family.. and is now is just so relieved that she is alive... I also met a girl when I was on the party scene in London.. who popped down to the Loos to give a man a BJ cause she had run out of money and needed a line... drugs don't see social boundaries.. it affects everyone.. I hope I never live to see them legalised....

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riyablossom
somewhere .. , Pennsylvania USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:43 PM CST

hmm...

I wouldnt try to appeal. Either you like me the way i am or else .. good for both .. i am better off by myself.

Flirting ... Lot of ladies do flirt along for varying reasons. It may be healthy flirting or with someone you like or a form of humour. And there are some who stayout .

As for whats spewing these days .. I agree !! But its a personal choice so i would stay out or if i am in a situation explain and excuse myself or plain not reply. NOTHING against the man but just cos i dont want to please or pretend what i am not .

But my opinin would be .. NOT to pretend what you are not .... to appeal for anyone ever !! It does happen that sometimes people take you for granted , men and women alike .. but thats a part of being in a society and likewise in the CS community.

All of us are different but with the lunar showers of eye straining threads on CS .... like one yest .. men and women .. are tormented alike.

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constanza
Los Angeles, California USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:45 PM CST

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'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

Intelligence is a relative term which has to be well defined before the battle; Intelligence is grace; it is patience when you want to jump at someone's throat and rip it; it is waiting knowing that we think more clearly when calm; it is being loyal and kind to friends, btw; recognizing one's own shortcomings and protecting that; it isn't trying to redeem oneself with lame explanations after having betrayed a friendship; even a dog knows better than to bite "the hand". JMO

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Aries01
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:46 PM CST

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'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

Ray... u don't ever have to dumb down.. and I hope u never do.... diplomacy and tact though are very valid qualities... I have always really respected ur opinions... and they have genuinely made me think and in some cases re-evaluate... the only times I have ever been annoyed is where u have insulted people on a personal level....otherwise.. keep em coming!!!

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Indyfella
indianapolis, Indiana USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:47 PM CST

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hmm...

I wouldnt try to appeal. Either you like me the way i am or else .. good for both .. i am better off by myself.

Flirting ... Lot of ladies do flirt along for varying reasons. It may be healthy flirting or with someone you like or a form of humour. And there are some who stayout .

As for whats spewing these days .. I agree !! But its a personal choice so i would stay out or if i am in a situation explain and excuse myself or plain not reply. NOTHING against the man but just cos i dont want to please or pretend what i am not .

But my opinin would be .. NOT to pretend what you are not .... to appeal for anyone ever !! It does happen that sometimes people take you for granted , men and women alike .. but thats a part of being in a society and likewise in the CS community.

All of us are different but with the lunar showers of eye straining threads on CS .... like one yest .. men and women .. are tormented alike.

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dcj22
Somewhere, South Dakota USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:48 PM CST

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Damn it, Detente, I tried to be patient, but I half to admit I finally just skimmed through your post

That's kind of an interesting question, though. I've certainly noticed a lot of women here bending over backwards to appear dumb and compliant in order to win over the CS men.

Not me, baby. I was married to, and lived with a man who were not as intelligent as I am - sorry - but there is no graceful way to say that. They both said I used words they didn't understand in an argument - because when I argued, I didn't filter it.

These days, you can all get a damn dictionary and a set of encyclopedias.

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Jan1305
(Moscow region temporarily), Murcia Spain

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:48 PM CST

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'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

Not sure Aries was directly complimenting you Ray.

Boring little people sometimes offer real gems.....be patient and listen sometimes, you may be surprised.

Nobody has to prove their intelligence here by pontificating, giving IQ scores, job descriptions or academic qualifications, it's very clear by reading posts who has an ounce of worth.

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riyablossom
somewhere .. , Pennsylvania USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:51 PM CST

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'I also find intelligence more attractive than anything else'

Why thank you.

I have found that superior intelligence insults even when it doesn’t intend to; while nothing is more acceptable to all whom it insults than a fool. So that, in a debate room for instance, a person with clear stand-out intelligence and the necessary studiousness and assertiveness to not so readily accept an assertion like everyone else and more so readily disagree, does so alone - and becomes by virtue of this an outcast who the majority will form a rabble against in order that by sheer numbers they may use their feeble brains to bring down that person’s superior intellect. Like a senseless rabble who shout nonsense to silence a clear and perfectly spoken orator.

And superior intellect keeps one resolutely single for one finds one’s own company and internal monologues more interesting than others – and furthermore one finds great interest in what others find to be an absolute bore, and so this is to the detriment of socializing and starting new relationships and makes things difficult.

One always has to dumb-down. Except a fool.

Ray .. i like your quest for the right answer and your determination .
Except for the part where u did personal insults , i think you add interesting posts and as you said you really work on them , its commendable. I do get to learn and think !

But maybe you should not take yourself too seriously sometimes. Just my opinion.

Its great to have you around.

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riyablossom
somewhere .. , Pennsylvania USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 5:55 PM CST

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Not sure Aries was directly complimenting you Ray.

Boring little people sometimes offer real gems.....be patient and listen sometimes, you may be surprised.

Nobody has to prove their intelligence here by pontificating, giving IQ scores, job descriptions or academic qualifications, it's very clear by reading posts who has an ounce of worth.

I agree with Jan on not having to prove intelligence .

People are people not all of us can be alike . Hence the part about being easily understandable so that we benefit from each other by virtue of being an online community and as friends.

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EastbayRay
Limassol, Limassol Cyprus

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 6:06 PM CST

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Intelligence is a relative term which has to be well defined before the battle; Intelligence is grace; it is patience when you want to jump at someone's throat and rip it; it is waiting knowing that we think more clearly when calm; it is being loyal and kind to friends, btw; recognizing one's own shortcomings and protecting that; it isn't trying to redeem oneself with lame explanations after having betrayed a friendship; even a dog knows better than to bite "the hand". JMO

Intelligence does not require anything that makes it agreeable to anyone.

And speaking of knowing better than to bite the hand that feeds you, I don't like dogs, I like cats - the only dogs I like are hotdogs. A dog bites the hand that feeds it, a hotdog feeds the hand that bites it.

Don’t try to define intelligence with ‘loyalty, grace, kindness and patience.’

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constanza
Los Angeles, California USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 6:08 PM CST

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Intelligence does not require anything that makes it agreeable to anyone.

And speaking of knowing better than to bite the hand that feeds you, I don't like dogs, I like cats - the only dogs I like are hotdogs. A dog bites the hand that feeds it, a hotdog feeds the hand that bites it.

Don’t try to define intelligence with ‘loyalty, grace, kindness and patience.’

Yes indeed let us not define it, let us demonstrate it whenever possible

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blue_eyed_blonde
Vinton, Iowa USA

Posted: Dec 29, 2007, 6:09 PM CST

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I agree with Jan on not having to prove intelligence .

People are people not all of us can be alike . Hence the part about being easily understandable so that we benefit from each other by virtue of being an online community and as friends.

well said by both you and Jan...

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