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Pedantry aside, we are human, and therefore have a responsability to relate.

Recognizing this is simply the same as learning to speak the language of the country you reside in.


Manipulation is devious...communicating accurately is not.

absolutely.. i totally agree with you.. cant remember the exact wording.. partly cause I'm a little tipsy... but in the 'trial and death of socrates' plato pointed out (in fancy language) that if you reach a point where you think you know it all.. u are severly limited intellectually... .. excuse the plato reference.. just to some it might have some resonance

Plato's an uber dude!

understood

Hiya Richard

yes!!

HELLO Aries! (though that couldn't be your real name?)

could it??

My real name is Orla.. .how r ya doin?

Thank you, Orla! I am honored! I am just fine!!

Let me tell you about empathy.

I had to STUDY in order to even understand what sympathy is. It is indeed 'the basis of morality' - seeing yourself in other people and other living things.
However, I believe some people see themselves in other living things, and CAN see themselves, more than others.
I have always been confused by people who watch a nature program and flinch when, for instance, a deer is suddenly pulled into a river by a crocodile. It is clear to me that they see themselves in the deer and cannot see themselves in the crocodile.
Therefore from this I once expounded an idea of selective-compassion which was reasonably well received. Namely, that people are 'selectively compassionate' and universal love is therefore a fallacy. An ideal.

Well, I have always seen myself more in the crocodile and find it hard to have sympathy for the deer. Nor why one should be seen as 'good' and the other 'evil'. I suppose people associate their sympathy with the deer because they would be as helpless in the same instance.
But why they cannot look upon the situation dispassionately I would love to know. If they believe in God, it is by his will that some are crocodiles while others are deers.

And I am indeed - no deer!!!

Wisest is he who knows he knows nothing.

i am no deer either! I'm BATMAN!!

that's more like it! but wisedom and intelligence are not the same either....

A lack of or reduced level of empathy may be related to autism or aspergers syndrome

unless you're a hermit :)

Yeah I dumb it down sometimes..

Like: When it's cold and raining and I would rather sit in my car and eat my McD's than get out and put the air in tyres...

'Ermm.. Ermm excuse me.. do you know how to put air in the tyres on my car.. I just don't know WHAT to doooo '


note: also works for water.. oil and screenwash.

ORRR... when I get stopped by the police from something silly.. like the fact my back brake light bulb has been gone for a week.

'Hello officer.. .. it has? Oh .. are you sure? but... but.. it was working when I left home... .. Ohh thankyou!.. you are sooo sweet'




::drives off doing 100mph:::


Or... when I'm in the USA... (best English accent) ' Ohh I'm sooo terribly sorreee.. I don't carry ID.. I am from Eeeglaand.. we don't need to carry it there'

or meanieism

But that is what sets us apart from animals...We don't live by instinct to survive...We have feelings and those involve compassion and empathy....Empathy is the abilty be able to identify with another person by putting yourself in their shoes...Either because you have experienced what they have so know how they feel or because you have at least experienced the feelings that are involved!!!!!!!!

Acting purely on instinct takes no intelligence at all...We are all born with it...However it's feelings that determine whether we react according to instict or have the knowledge to know enough that we don't go kill people or dogs...cats etc because we are hungry!!!!!!!

So there has to be some emotional intelligence involved...otherwise we could devlop no boundaries and have no limits!!!!!!!!

"dumb down" = manipulate! hmmmmm NICE!