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I thought it was the opposite Is there more and more marriages in our time than in the past?
There is surely more divorces because it became easy to do it.

Hey, if we are unhappy, we can leave now. I think it's a good thing. A wife can leave if she is unhappy now.

Life is too short to be with someone who does not make you happy.

Yeah I do think the majority of marriages nowadays, people jump too soon,
without trying.. or much effort to resolve problems.

I don't mean TRYING to keep it going when your husband/wife is cheating on you, duffing you up etc. Thats different IMO.

But kind of like you said Aries.. when the picket fence doesn't appear.. the roses aren't around the door...and/or they hit some bumpy times, yeah I think often too many people bail out at the first sign of trouble.

I think communication is key in any relationship.

Can't say never been married

People today have been fighting a battle of useless proportions to produce what they believe is better than what their forefathers had. It extends far beyond the material world and into all the inner aspects of the psyche. We tend to take things too far. Women's liberation was never created to turn them into men and some will not see the battle over until they have achieved this goal.
We have lost the family values of the past or traded them for dreams of some future utopia. These self same people are the ones most commonly suffereing from Cinderella syndrome. How can a man ride up to one of them and expect her to be a princess when the world strives every day to make her a man? And how can the princess accept the knight in shining armour if she has to joust him for the horse?
With the globalization occuring each and every day, the cultural events and situations of vastly diverse societies are coming to heads as well, not only privately but publicly. This adds new perceptions to the union of marriage. We just try to overcomplicate a very simple thing, and in doing so one or the other partner walks away while the other is trying to graduate from the Univeral Diploma Facility that we are constantly redeveloping during each semester to ensure students but nary a graduate.

Mark

I think people stayed together and had longer marriages in the past, because they were often willing to put up with ANY shitty marriage or treatment.


Yeeeears ago.. getting divorced was frowned upon.. as was being a single parent.

It's very different nowadays.

I totally agree Kev..

but I also think you (as a couple) need to look at WHY you are unhappy.. and before bailing out, see if you can make some changes to fix it.

It seems people give up too easily and not work through their problems.

I agree that there are some cases where it is the ONLY option say e.g a violent marraige etc.... however I also think that commitment needs to involve compromise... some of the best marraiges I know have survived ups and downs.. alcoholism.. even infidelity... and sticking together and working it out tends to make the bond stronger than ever....

I totally agree! I'm not saying that people should bail as soon as they feel a twinge of unhappiness, but it's nice that we are not restricted to once chance anymore.

There are often reasons popel are unhappy that do not involve their partner.

INDEED!

I don't think they give up too easy...What I do think is that people have become wise to the fact that it's no longer acceptable to stay in an unhealthy relationship...whether it be abuse...or just plain falling out of love...Years ago it was not acceptable...Sp people just pretended everything was fine...When indeed it wasn't!!!!!!!!

haha yeah.. I agree (again)

good points mark... as usual

I think Hollywood and the idea of instant gratification has to shoulder some of the blame. I've talked to an awful lot of women who say they want the Harlequin romance, the Princess Di wedding, the Dallas lifestyle and won't settle for anything less.
So if they don't get it, divorce! Look for a new victim!

Yuppp that's .. people stuck throo it all (usually) didn't they..

because it was often preferable to bailing out and facing the *Shame* of it.

Cool, even if I did spell people "popel" ??

Because people are more narcissistic....

Hi Aries......sp. MARRIAGE!

As for your question, some people hold the view that easier and quicker legal access to divorce could be the reason why people perhaps don't try harder to make their relationship work. I don't know what aspect of the law you work in but you probably have more insight into this viewpoint than I do.

I believe this may partly be the answer, but I think we also have to take into account that more and more middle aged people, women in particular, are filing for divorce when their children have grown up. They often have suffered unhappy marriages for a long time but stayed married out of misguided loyalty to their husband or because of the children.

Have you ever been in a pub and seen a middle aged couple or older sitting together drinking but not speaking to each other all evening? I have, many times, and it is very sad.

Nowadays it is much easier, for many women, regardless of age, to live independently and not suffer the plight that our sisters in the past endured.