Posted: Jan 1, 2008, 6:48 PM CST
I don't claim to understand women....but this one puzzles me. I met her online. She is really really a nice, cute, and sweet person. We have an amazingly amount of things in common including where we live, how we live, and what we want. There was NEVER any pressure to do anything. First date was dinner and a drive, all went nice...just a small hug and light kiss. Second date was out for some activities just to get to know each other, grab a beer and a sandwich, then to my place for a movie. She spent the night, we cuddled but no sex. Third date...I delivered dinner to her house, helped her put a few things together she had gotten for Christmas.... a little snuggling. She anticipated my kisses with openness. After a little romance she pulls the cutains closed as she was extremely hot and anxious. She led me to the bedroom. In no way did I ever pressure her for sex. Actually, by the time I was ready to give it to her she was practically begging... Afterwards she spent a very long time in the shower. Tho' she was very nice she seemed distant. Since then she broke the date which she had made with me. I had to encourage her to just be friends and not avoid me because I'm not about to burn that bridge. I don't know what her problem is or if there is one. I just know that she went from extremely hot to wanting to not date and being apprehensive about dating...just wants time. She says she doesn't want to get into casual sex, but after 3 dates and getting to know each other quite well I do not call it casual. For me it was the beginning of a very comfortable relationship...I just don't know, I'm somewhere between puzzled and confused, not hurt but trying to be very understanding since my last relationship ended with me devastated. I certainly do not want to be hurt again and don't want to see anyone hurt... but What's the deal? I've had similar experiences. I know she has feelings for me but surely the sex was not so bad that she ran from me.... the only thing I may have done wrong was to insist on a condom....as much as I hate those things I want to use one until I know I'm the one and only and prefer to see a health certificate.... So...somebody tell me what's going on in her mind? Did my use of a condom make her feel that she is dirty or that I don't trust her?