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If I'm still around when she gets past her present situation then good, if not then that will be good to. She's fine and will be o.k. I do however, think it would be a terrible if we do not remain friends. I really like her as a person and totally enjoyed just being out with her...maybe even more than the sex!... Hell, everything was fine up until that point.....

Freaking sex screws everything up!

Sins of the flesh.

I have a good friend, sweet lady. she is lonely and said to me the other night. "I haven't had sex in years. I haven't met anyone that I would want to have sex with" Then she turned to me and looked me in the eye and said"..except you! And I don't want to ruin our relationship by bringing sex into it" I agree with her 100%

Well, I'm not one to pass by an opportunity... but I can agree... too bad you can't come to an agreement and understanding that will allow both of you to simply deepen your friendship and respect for each other by helping her out with that little problem.....

I dont think it would help either of them to break the bonds of their friendship - you stick to yr guns Ship, Im proud of ya

I have a couple of old friends who are men and their friendship means so very much more to me than to sleep with them, its a higher level of friendship, above and beyond the ordinary - we already know that we will be part of each others lives for years to come cos we have already stood the tests of time.

This doesnt mean that a new relationship would ever be threatened or that extremely special new friendships arent possible - Ive been good friends with the girlfriends of both these male friends and likewise they have with men who have been in my life - but they are still in it because of the respect shown for our friendship

Let me add... both my 2nd and 3rd wives were my best friends. We're still friends to this day. It was the marriage that screwed up everything....not the sex. We never had an argument till we got married.

yep, its a crazy old life isnt it - a couple who I know had been together about 18 yrs and got married last yr at easter - they broke up at christmas

i suppose people do go to great lengths to preserve the love they had - so sad when it go's though for whatever reason.

I guess thats why I put such store on my long term friends and not sleeping with them

Awww..

It's nice to know tho hey Ship..

Heck Ship...go ahead and bang her then sit back and talk about it... might be an opportunity you should never pass up...don't forget to give her hugs and kisses....

Well ... apparently the lady in my original post was quite new to this whole thing since she's still new to the online date sites and the old bf just got twisted with his own life. Seems he is an okay guy and doesn't know she got frustrated which led her to getting online... I'm actually the first guy she met in person that she ran into on the date sites. Maybe that causes her some apprehension. Probably still a bit mystified by it all.

Sorry to be blunt but I think she thought it was a crap shag,Oh and thats not to say anyoone is to blame. Just not compatible.

ya...now can you put that in "American English"? What's "crap shag"?

Unsatisfactory sexual encounter. Sorry about my English.

I do think it is or was an emotional issue of not wanting to be overly attached, fear of giving up her freedom as that is still new to her also. Too, I'm not long out of a LTR so I have an experience that some women will throw up in my face as I too frequently talk about it. I'm also open about past pains and defensive about not wanting to be hurt. All things are possible but to determine whether she actually was burdened by guilt of a casual relationship or if it was the fear that I wanted more than a casual relationship is something that I am unable and unwilling to judge but the curiosity of her true desires is interesting. I'm just very happy that we are still friends and I love just hearing her voice and receiving the emails. It is very pleasant to be able to continue the friendship and I do hope to see her again from time to time. I would just be far more apprehensive about becoming too involved too quickly....and this will probably carry over into my next dating experience.