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Some 10 or so years ago I was cruising the date sites and actually met several women to which I almost married the one who I grew to dearly love and respect but moved out on me back in August. That was a very successful relationship that grew from meeting on the internet. However, there were a few that I recall that we had a great friendship online. I met more than one in which as soon as we met it meant the end of all friendship and all ties. There was plenty of fire and plenty of chit chat online but totally a dead silence when we met... Anyone else have these kinds of experiences?

not yet, this is my first experience with a site like this.

too many to count

Yeah i think we all have awkward moments but when they turn into awkward dates then you have a problem. Sometimes you build up an image of someone in your head by talking to them and seeing pics etc but (and not necessarily through anyone's fault) they don't live up to the image you had in your head. And you're sitting there wondering what to say next to liven up the conversation. I think if you are talking to someone online and after a while you suddenly run out of things to talk about, thats usually a good indication JMO

I chatted to one woman online once and we got on great online. She did tell me she was quiet and so am i but i didn't think it would be a problem. That is until we met in person. Lets just say the conversation wasn't exactly flowing and i think it made us both very uncomfortable.

This is my first time on a dating site and it's been interesting.

I just ran across this site by pure accident.

I went out with a lady from another site. All night long, she looked at the karaoke book!! Didn't look at me or talk the whole night! That was my last dating site date.



BTW...I left her there and went to another karaoke bar

My first internet date happened back somewhere around 1992 or 3. Everyone has been a total disaster. I have made a few good friends from the online dating scene, but none were dates.

I fear the chaos that may occure when meeting in person, but I NEVER have any fear up to that point. I guess is sex never enters the relationship there is no chance that it will come crashing to the ground.

Anyone up for a one night stand?

Zee

am not even sure if its about the image in your head... i do agree with you and thats very well put if i may say but do u not think it has something to do with chemistry.... i have had both where we got on great online but nothing face to face to face or quiet chats online and all talk face to face... to be honest at this stage i am not sure of anything anymore... i do think talking for weeks and weeks b4 meeting is a bit of a mistake as u have built up this friendship but then if no chemistry on the date your friend is gone.. no matter how many times you say it wont happen it does.... and thats tough...jmo

yep been there and it was a little much for me as it was an International date, jumped a flight to go on that date but it was more silence for me than for her, I loosened up and really the woman I talked to for 2 years told me alot and I mean some deep stuff and she was upset for a long time that I never came to visit, my last night with her we went out and had fun, it was when I got home I realized how much she was to me and seen in her letters it was Visa Versa... I did not fit into her family and eventually said good bye......

" should not have got on this flight tonight"

Oh yeah i do agree Chemistry does play a huge part in things. Sometimes you feel like you have great chemistry online, emails and on the phone or whatever but it doesn't always translate well in person.

Well i think it can happen either way really. You can slip into the "friends zone" if you are talking for ages but it can also happen if there is no chemistry or not enough chemistry. I just mean sometimes the image you have in your head of that person isn't always the way they are offline.......

Did that make any sense?

my one experience with this site has left me heartbroken recently. the chatting was great, we talked for hours on the phone, told each other the l word and i went to visit him in GA , one month later and he texts me a breakup note. there was no warning, we were still supposedly in love!! dont know what to tell ya

Not had that experience yet, no!! But I understand what you mean. I have a darling friend of about 3 years now, whom I hold in high regard and feel a fondness for (no romantic inclination, I hasten to add), who has been there for me.

We have never met but I have recently suggested that there may be an opportunity to meet, in the course of other events. He tells me he is happy about that but I do feel with our recent communications (or rather lack of) that he would rather I remained a "cyber" friend...??

I do believe sometimes people are wary and its very simple why....

They have come to "know" a "persona" of that person and not the actual person. Like it or not, and try not to even, but one will perceive, build up an image of that other person and feel that, in physically meeting that person, they will be anything other than their notion of that person.... Bursted Bubble Syndrome, perhaps...??

Sometimes, its felt that to continue with what you believe the person to be like is better than meeting and facing any potential bitter disappointments, in my view??

At the end of the day, its about candor and honesty.... if he would rather I remained a "cyber" friend, that is his prerogative and I would respect his wishes. I would not be offended, for the reasons stated.... but I would need to know?? I am not telepathic.....

Excellent thread BTW... !!

well you have to just take it... as I went out with an All American woman few years back and it ended, to many differences.....

yeah well its hard to take when they are spouting i love u and want ur children one day and then 3 days later its over!

Very good point

I'm really sorry to hear you got hurt. To end things with a text is cruel but whats even more cruel is to deceive someone like that