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Hiya Detente ... I have thrown out my 'list' long ago... nobody I ever got together with conformed to it.. 'suppose' there are some unavoidable crucial things like love, trust, compatibility and attraction.. but other than that.. always has been a mystery to me

Agree, Lately I find myself attracted to a couple of woman on here, Each for different reasons and each unique in their own way, And neither fitting the ideal picture in my head.

i guess if we had the answer to this question, there would be no failed marriages, relationships or frustrated ex's on the prowl on cs ...... seeking whom to devour .......

I have some idea of what I want; I definitely know whether or not I like someone by how at ease or at peace I am in their presence, or how uneasy for that matter
And surprizes are nice because they teach us more about ourselves.

Could be because you're being distracted by.....boobies!

Seriously though, I think I have a very good idea about what, or more appropriately, who would be a good match for me and I believe the only reason I can say that is that I was married for a long long time and learned a lot about myself during that time living with another person.

Since then I have a sixth sense if you like about potential relationships and how successful they may be.

I have a list a mile long of things that I don't want....So I just took what's left and added it to my..." I want" list!!!!!!!

That has to be it cause there's nothing else left!!!!!!

"But, when it comes down to it, how sure can we be that we really know what makes us tick...what we respond best too...what brings the best out of us?"

Ahhh...and this is the key...when it comes down to it, we just know. We just feel it. We don't need a blueprint or a schematic or a checklist, really, for life will throw us many curveballs...many of them quite intrriguing, whether we expected them or wanted them or not. I no longer have a blueprint. I only have 2 eyes, 2 ears, and one heart (and, of course, Detente...I do have 2 boobies!!). I go with what feels right at the moment...with the thing that makes me tick. What turns me on now is far different than what turned me on 20 years ago, but I still can't put it on paper or into words. I just know it when I am staring it in the face or feeling it inside. No, it doesn't always work out or lead to something big, but it may just be right for now. Ahhh, hell... I don't seek or expect perfection; I just want that feeling....screw the blueprint...go for the feeling. I know women who apologize (in a way) for men that they are attracted to...sort of a "he's not so good-looking, but" kind of statement. This pisses me off when they say this. I don't care if the man is hot or not; if he does it for her, this is all that matters. And this is all that I want....no blueprint...I just want someone who does it for me. Could just be that certain twinkle in his eyes....could be his smile...whatever it is, if it draws me to him, who am I to question it?

Spoken like a professoress of lurve if I may say so!

Considering I gave up the ideal a long time ago, that is pretty much how I think!

Sorry the previous post was for this!

I have a list as long as my arm..

I didn't have used to have one, and I think (for me).. that may have been the problem.

My list being sooo long is part of the reason I've been single the last 4-5 years.




But I don't have time in my life for messing about on silly crappy relationships any more.. I would MUCH rather be single for the rest of my life (I'm GREAT at being single.. and I love it)

Than settle for some two bit nothing of a relationship.

Yes, I guess I might appear to be this....yet, here I am...wise and seemingly in control of my life and my emotions and feelings, but yet so far from where I want to be. You know what they say...those who can't do, teach (or something along those lines).

I often say that I would rather spend the rest of my life alone than to spend 2 hours with someone that I don't care to be with. And I definitely hold true to this.

Every relationship is a conflation of compromises.

And the blueprint is chancing with every minute you are living. Every experience is chancing the view of life a little bit.

I am still working on becoming the person that I want to be. I do believe that as I work on myself, I am also acquiring the traits that I would also like in a partner. I may never become someone that a partner would be attracted to. I can only keep striving to be the very best me that I can be.

Same here...a work in progress!

How about 3 bit

hahaha.. it took me about 2mins of this >

To work that out..

Stupid me