Posted: Jul 10, 2008, 11:45 AM CST
Sex may not be the most important ingredient in a relationship, but in my humble opinion it is a big part of the foundation. A lot of relationships start with great passion and sex, communication, common interests, and for numerous reasons, a lot of them mentioned in this thread, relationships fade, feelings fade, etc, and the relationship suffers greatly eventually coming to an end.
One of the complaints i hear a lot from my male friends is that after having kids with their loved one they find that they receive less passion and interest in having sex. This is very hard for men because we don't change, we're still the same person we were before having a child, a womans body changes, moods, feelings, etc, and it's hard for us to relate to and understand the lack of sexual interest and activity we receive from our partner when it was once something we both enjoyed and both looked forward to.
Men have their downfalls as well. What ever the reasoning may be, sex/making love is a very important part of any relationship and when it fades i would expect the relationship/connection to fade too, unless we are speaking of age here, i'm just speaking in general.
I myself feel that if a relationship begins with lots of passion and sex, equal interest, then i build an expectation of "this is how it will always be," and if/when it starts to fade and i'm giving my all to keep the passion going i'll eventually start looking elsewhere because it honestly affects my self esteem, it makes me feel unwanted. I want someone to want me as much as i want them. Yes, i've been in this situation before!
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So much more to say but i have to get to work!
Expectations... Communication... Work Stress, etc, there's a lot of factors that can affect your sexual relationship. It's important to be open and having the ability to bend for your loved one.
I do truly believe that there's a match for all of us out there and every relationship has it's purpose or reason. We grow, we evolve, we live, we learn... keep the communication and activity alive and you're off to a great start, then with a little work and keeping your scale balanced i believe you're off to a happily ever after!!! Fingers crossed?? Hehehe.
Best wishes to all!
