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my new husband of 3 weeks going out to have a drink and dance after his bowling night. Why wouldnt he call and tell me or ask me to go? He said it was just one drink but was stupid and he was sorry.. I am so hurt. What do you think?

Sometimes we just don't THINK perhaps.

You say he says it was just one drink.. I don't see that's a problem really.. it's not as though he was out all night getting hammered dancing with other women 3wks after you've married..

Have a good talk to him about it.. but don't fall out.. it's just not worth it, He probably just didn't think he would be long by the sounds of it.

Have you discussed it with him?????

Like I said about New Years eve....He isn't making you or his marriage a priority...He seems to want to live the single life while being married...NOT something I would settle for...BUT that's your choice!!!!!!

the drink..........ok, maybe, BUT the dance? with who?

i cant see the harm either

but if its upsetting you, hes propbably oblivious to that and you need to tell him how you feel

and marriage isnt always about doing everything together, as long you do share a lot together, its still possible to hold onto your own separate interests

best of luck to you ......... hope it all works out

i would not get upset about it. he was out with the lads and having a beer, he probably didnt think you would mind. the other guys might have egged him on to go and he probably said ok but only for one.

also i think its good to get out with your mates and not with your partner all of the time.

everybody needs there own time.

dont get upset . plan a girly night out instead.

then your together time will be special

kiss and make up

Hmmm I agree with Scottishlass, nothing wrong with a drink with his mates, but dancing?

If he wants nights with his pals, and as I said I don't see the harm occasionally, then maybe you ought to think about doing the same instead of waiting and worrying.

I agree with Nelly too

Good advice from all they ladies on here. I would suggest you tell him your hurt though don't let it fester.

Hun your relationship is so new..so many things will be going through ur mind all kind of emotions..just be honest and tell him how you feel about it..just let him know next time you would appreciate a call if he wanted to do something or wouldnt be home soon...Good luck hun...Dont worry hun...men dont think as much as we do..lol..

was he "this way" while you where dating?

Or has someone thought that being once married things would and should naturally change?

If he has said that he was sorry, you should move past this. It takes time to adjust to being married and the last thing you want to do is start feeling insecure.

It is said that financial problems and insecurity are the top two killers of relationships.

Good luck and I wish you the best.

well you have one in a million there,
if I go out for drinks with the lads, we wouldn't go dancing unless we were out on the 'pull'
the flip side is(not sure about your situation) how does he fell about you being on a singles site three weeks after your wedding?

oops *feel*

Good question...My ex-husband was and the one thing I have learned is never to expect anyone to change....That's why my unwillingness to accept it now...I want to be with someone that loves and respects me without them having to change anything...If you can't except it now...Don't expect it to be different later cause it won't be!!!!!!!

In the words of Dr. Phil..."The best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour"!!!!!!!

If you are married, why are you on a singles meeting singles website with a profile that says you are seeking men?

I understand you may have made some friends here while you were single, but you are not single anymore. Maybe you should get your friends email addresses to keep contact and consider removing your profile.

It's a bit of a double standard (not to mention ironic) to complain about your husband having a beer with the guys, while you're a married woman on a singles site.

I sure hope that women or men believe all that bunk on from TV


"In the words of Dr. Phil..."The best indicator of future behaviour is past behaviour"!!!!!!!


Dr.Phil picks his "clients" like Springer pick his.

Extremely dysfunctional people.

By no way reveal the the actions/sentiments of common everyday folk or relationships.

Thats why its called a "show" for entertainment purposes only.

Walk away from the TV... these so called "gurus of happiness and advice" are only charlatans who only seek a easy paycheck and ratings.

i agree peer pressure with men is really powerful. talk to him and tell him how you feel about it

I think they met here... they have friend here still. ( I think)