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Truly speaking There should be no fears !! cos its one of the higher forms of giving and caring...

But, in RL ... i am scared what if it doesnt work they way i want it too ..

So hey Wendy lesson learnt?Just dont repeat the cycle my dear

Feel the fear and do it...........

I learned a great deal from my one sided relationship. I wouldn't trade the experience for anything.

Love is truly about giving of yourself. But loving yourself is also important.

So I quess that would be my second worst fear in love...Forgetting to love myself first!

(PS-Thanks for your kind words guys! Kisses to you all!)

You come first lady???? Allways You cannot love another in the ultimate till you love yourself.

TO EXPRESS MY LOVE FRANKLY......

I agree with you , made me doubt everything about myself and left wondering what should i have done differently

This is a popular misconception. It's entirely possible to love someone else without loving yourself.

To phrase differently...

It's my job to love her, and her job to love me.

i think your right there

I do know we can all love ....I love a lot of people but the ultimate Kundulini ??earth bio energy love ??takes a lot of ....work and quietening of the mind ego ??

That I will lose it before I can find the answer to "How can I make love stay?"

Unfortunately this is a task that can't be done alone.

Failing is a matter of life and also love.

I think, it's most important to be honest for not rising any wishes or expectations which might not be true.

I really feel there is a certain balance to love. I agree that you should love each other equally in a relationship. But as you prepare yourself to be ready for a relationship, you should have a certain amount of "love" or respect and understanding of yourself. If you haven't achieved this then you may not be able to love fully and completely.

For example..Girl is unhappy with her life. She thinks she's fat and ugly. She finds a guy who likes her. Even though he has never told her she is fat or ugly, she is constantly second guessing how he feels because of her own insecurities. Her insecurity leads him to think she is needy, the relationship deteriorates. And the whole thing is born from here not loving herself. Yes, communication could help here but we all see the point.

Love yourself. You are your own best friend.

But surely, we only fail when we give up on love?

By virtue of the fact we are dealing with other people, there is always the possibility of problems...ups and downs etc.

But the true test of love is in the ability to keep wanting to give purely...with selfless motivations.

Idealistic I know, but ideals can be quite useful.

Yes, there are guys who are turned off by "needy" women. I'm not one of them. I enjoy filling a woman's need if she's willing to fill mine.

The degree of trust that's built in this kind of relationship defies the ability to describe.

In other words... if I love myself, what do I need HER for?

I see it the same way