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Fear isn't a bad thing of itself, it keeps us safe. We all have fears, those who say they don't are either lying or idiots or crazy.

The idea is to face your fears, and not let them control you or keep you from enjoying life and love. It's like crossing a street, you should be afraid to cross a street if traffic is coming. But if you look both ways, nothing is coming, and you're still afraid to cross, that is letting fear control you.

This is a great analogy for me, and I didn't even think of it that way until I started writing it, since I was run over by a car while crossing a street. That still doesn't make me afraid to cross a street again. Sometimes we have no control over what happens, in spite of our precautions. I have been hurt, badly, in love, but that doesn't make me afraid to love again. I may be hurt again, but I will survive. What doesn't kill us may leave us scarred, I have scars for life from my experiences, but in a strange way it has made me stronger, because I know that I can survive, and that makes me less afraid of the pain.

to express my love i used to use the funny jokes but it has become my worst fear of love. and i plastered my mouth cos jokes always come out with the love.now i'm scared.....oh....love ....no...no ...i never think about it anymore....and i don't know even such a word further more...

cheating

the time lost and probably the most foreboding fear is the opportunities I would gladly pass on only later to find that love was a fallacy.

Ever the scholar..

still confused?

not having control

somehow

I have no fear in love because I don't fall in love.

theres greater fears that have nothing to do with love...

at least you ruled others out that way

I do love all my kids, my parents, and my nephew and niece. But I do not or fall in love.

Hurting the person I am in love with again, and not learning to not trust him after all his lies

i wont let my fear of falling in love, beat me...im stronger and smarter then what fear represents...it can be a battle but its not my nature to bck down from a fight..i just learned which battles to fight more wisely...in life and love, i may get knocked down, but never knocked out!

Its no fear in love just the one who dont love is who you fear

I have a big fear of falling in love. Never will I do it again. That's my story and I am sticking to it. I have for 17 years.


I'm pride of you. I'm beginning to learn how to do that.

I suspect that having control over it means you aren't falling in love. You can't control your fall into the aforementioned bottomless pit.