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See, one can be very comfortable with being single.
And very comfortable with chatting on dating sites.
And very comfortable with meeting another who is very comfortable too.
And very comfortable with a companion.

It's all in the mind, sir.
It's a choice.
To be comfortable and content, in whatever.


~breath

I hate every friggen minute of it. I hate being alone. My heart tells me it's only temp. But my mind knows better!! I won't get used to it...but I'll settle!!

Ditto

Sometimes i think I've become too comfortable with the lifestyle and numerous perks that come along with it.... did I say sometimes

u did fella

i read the thread title
and fireliter's comment only

ive done some inventory on me

i would say i am too comfortable
but screw it
if a fit came long it would work
im just so happy, fulfilled and comfortable-
i dunno-99% of the time it doesnt seem to matter much at all

it will be hard to give up the comfort I've built for myself but as you said if someone came along and me ..I just wonder if I would pursue it with the tenacity that I do my single lifestyle... only time will tell

this is my point
if there needed to be no pursuit
and it just flowed and fit
at a reasonable pace

hey-great

and i do believe thats possible
but i know it also may be denial and a wall of fear i hide behind...


indeed
time will tell
and i am so grateful that as time goes on
i have morphed into contentment
which does not mean complacent

50-50 split. Like others have said.

The freedom is nice but you have no one to share special moments with. :-(

beanes............I can truthfully say I relate to what your experiencing. I was happily married for 17 years. We had even worked together for most of those years. My husband died almost 5 years ago. When I lost my best friend, partner, playmate, and lover, I think I lost a part of myself. All are friends were also married and all my family are hundreds of miles away. I am defintely not comfortable with this empty" hole in my heart" of no one special to look forward to seeing, talking to, and spending time with together ...........Billie

Yes! ..beanes ...its all the happy moments I miss..the laughter we had, the witty exchange of nonsenses which were part of our days..there was a lot of detail in our shared life which made it so happy. Hardley a day could go by without him having me laughing (whether I wanted to or not)and also just about everybody that he was around. He was definitely the sunshine in my life...

I'd say you are absolutely remarkable and definately a prize!!

Best Wishes for the new year.

Raindog....I love my cat, but her communication skills are also somewhat limited

Varies depending on the day, but for the most part semi-content, because otherwise why would I be on here in the hope of finding someone?

Just not sure at this time how serious I'd be to bring someone into my life because of circumstances and the lack of time/energy I seem to have not to give. It would feel wonderful to feel wanted and desired - but truly to be honest with myself - just don't feel like I'm worthy and desirable enough to appeal to another. Hard to admit that - but that's where I'm at - so I just know that its time to spend some time falling in love with myself and realize how truly special that I am ... simply for being me.

Thank you much Dusty! And Best Wishes for your New Year also

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What he said

I'm sorry to hear that stilkidn

I wish you all the best

Not at all!! I am at my best, and human beings grow the most, when they are in mutually supportive relationships.