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Maybe for some people, but not me. I'm normally a trusting person, but break it once and I won't give you the opportunity to do it again.

Oh me too.. that would be IT..

But I notice (in a relationship) I am also vereeee sensitive to people raising their voice at me... or even messing about and saying.. ' What did you do that for you silly b*tch haha' even playing about name calling... etc..

that to me is logged and noted,
and is something that would keep on and on popping up in my mind.

I agree Indy.. well put

And the intensity of the feelings you have for them.

Do I get some type of award for that deep philosophical thought ?

I can't imagine swearing at someone I'm in a relationship with, Just not me.

Yeah! :: passes Snickers bar::::

Yes, zero tolerance for blatant disrespect too.

People have reasons to behave in a certain way. Circumstances , emotions , anger ... i do not include cheating for obvious reasons .

So maybe its possible to a certain level to reason out their standing and actions.

You must have a short memory in relationships...Forgetting is more important, because forgiving someone doesn't mean you forget. Forgetting is allowing the past...To stay in the past. To truly forgive someone you must forget.

That works....and they're great frozen.... (on a hot summer's day) Send it UPS next day please!

so true .. how much do we learn from them ?

usually i feel its less than the amount of tears we shed for them.

forgiving is the easy part...........forgetting takes time and patience

u can forgive, but u never forget, u tend to be, but u know how our mind works, reminisce , baby

To forgive...
Do not not forget...
But also if you forgive you cannot hold the issue in anger.

if one just forgets all the time, and never discusses the problem how can one resolve it.

and i do not believe anyone can forget... because if it happened again... it would surely be a part of the discussion about how it happened before.

To forgive is absolute... you must do this if you ever expect any forgiveness yourself.

and again to forget is impossible... but if you remember just do not hold anger in it , if you do then you never forgave in the first place.

JMO
and Love is a wonderously splendid thing... and has more strength constuctively than hate.
Eric

Forgiving in its truest sense requires that we excuse transgressions AND harbor no anger or resentment.

To keep bringing the situation up indicates that forgiveness has not happened yet.

Some form of letting go or 'forgetting' needs to accompany forgiving otherwise we are putting ourselves in a position where we can feel like a 'superior' being with an "I forgave you" forever in outr mind.

Absolute death and destruction to any chance of a viable relationship.

he he he
Dan im going to be mean

you do...

i swear i love you Baby

i swear it wasn't me

i swear sometimes you just kill me.

as God as my witness I swear i will not come home that late again.

i swear it was ONLY 2 beers

Na na na na na na

yay

thats what i meant and you said it so eliquently...

this woman is bound for greatness i tell you.

Either great minds or fools...



Someone got very upset with me once because although I acknowledged their apology I did not offer forgiveness. I was very hurt and any words of forgiveness would have been meaningless at that moment.

Result? A repeat and escalation of the same hurtful behaviour. Forgiveness is not something to be dispensed lightly, as for forgetfulness...if you live long enough you forget all the losers anyway