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I have a question for those out there who are open minded... I am a little confused about a few things.

OKAY in my OPIONION (not that I am always right) when a man and a woman come together (no not CUM)
They should only be with one another, and not others.

When you are in love with someone it is about sharing your body, thought's ideas, dreams, passions, hopes dreams, with that person.... You take the good with the bad, and endure if you must.

But for some sharing bodies is not a big deal. (Fornication with others, etc..)

I understand that sex is a common act, but should it be treated with care, not only because of diseases but because you are entering a temple, the temple of LOVE.....



Situation #1-
Now I got a message from a fellow who is looking for sex because his wife is not able to have sex, this really upset me, and I thought you rotten B#stard, cheating... I then messaged him back.

He said that his wife supported him in this area, and I could speak with her (I deleted the email). This shocked me.



Situation #2-
I met a fellow in real life where we had dinner a few times and he spoke openly about sex with others through his life, and how he felt about sex, it was just a random act. I told him I would be a bore for him because there are several things I have not done in life, and some things I just will never do because it does not appeal to me. So I would be a bore for him to just be with me in the bedroom, so what is the point of trying a relationship with someone like me then? His response to me was, well I could have you but one can not eat steak everyday, WTF??????

SO I am a piece of steak in his eyes, but I can not be his everyday? Now is this a screwed up concept of thinking, or am I the one who is just an "INNOCENT" as he claims....


What are the thoughts out there on these things....

FYI- I am still alone, and not getting into these CONCEPTS, or relationships...but; am I living in the dark ages, or have I chatted with 2 messed up men?

You are who you are. No need to change for anyone other than yourself.

Purety is HIGHLY attractive!

Never devalue yourself into believeing you have to anything you don't truly want to do.

And any partner who has come to know you and your values, and who tries to inveagle you into doing nasty stuff, doesn't respect your dignity.

I'm happy I've never done some stuff that seems quite common place today. Seems way too unpleasant to me.

Sounds like you need to look a little more closely at your chosen quarry!

... unbelievable that this level of git exists... ur a stunning girl and u obviously have some respect for yourself... good manners and common decency isn't something that should alter with the times.. I know there are alot of crass people out there, but there are also a lot of good people.. wait and give ur heart to one of them!!

im a virgin. i wouldnt change that just to please others. sex is something that is supposed to be shared among 2 people who love each other. otherwise i think its just defeating the purpose of the whole thing.

Your head is screwed on straight. Dont' change anything that doesn't feel right to you!

A little different perspective...

I grew up with the understanding and thought that sex was just what people "did." That is was entertainment, like going to the movie or out having a drink with friends. Not about love or special in anyway.

It has taken me a long time and some very BAD experiences to even begin to understand the true intimacy of a sexual experience with a "partner." I am excited for you that you have a background that has given you the foundation that you have. I can't go back and change my experiences but I can determine my future and I know now that I want someone who is loyal and respectful, who is with me because they love me and not because I am today's special.

Good Luck in your search and never sell out on your values!

I waited too feels more right if with someone u care about

You and you values are just fine! I think you just found a couple of messed up guys.

Sweetie, it does not make one bad, never think that for one second...

It is an experience that you have that has given you insight..... you grow as I grow, as we all do in life..

I am not judging these people for their thought's; I know that society has moulded us into a certain thinking pattern, and I have some guilt regarding things that I have done, and not done...

**hugs to you my sweet little friend***


I can not help but feel a little confused and lost, we all do from time to time.

Thanks for the hugs!!!

We are all better for the lives we lived and the directions we're headed in!

To me, personally, i think it is better to make love than just have sex. Its something that should be shared between two people who care about each other and want to express their feelings. When its just sex, it cheapens the experience and i personally think it is way better with someone you care about than just some random person but hey, that's just my opinion. I respect other people's choices and beliefs even if i don't agree with them. Everyone is different i guess....

Life isn't all black and white, for the first scenario, he/they may have their reasons, as for the second, experiment a bit, don't cross your own boundaries, but live a little..

That's true too. As long as you do what is comfortable for you, thats all that matters.....

Love is not the dying moan of a distant violin — it's the triumphant twang of a bedspring

LOL good one! I must remember that one!

"Sex alleviates tension. Love causes it."