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I have a younger sister who is recently back into the dating scene...she was supposed to have her second date with someone last night...it didn't happen...

He was watching the football game with his brother and some buddies and i guess it got out of hand...and well as a result, he woke up with a hangover this morning calling and begging her to forgive him...

I said to her, tell him his apology is accepted but you are not interested in dating someone who could not even pick up the phone out of sheer decency to tell you plans had changed...AND if he could pull a stunt like that on your second date...well what have you got to look forward to in six months....

My older sister disagrees...she thinks he's apologized...he's admitted he made a BIG mistake and that he was inconsiderate...and that she should give him another chance...

What do you all think?

(I told them i would be asking you all for your opinion...)

I agree with you wikked...Sure he apologized and admitted he made a big mistake...until the next time!!!!!!

I say..see ya...he obviously is more interested in his own activities rather than seriously dating anyone!!!!!!!!

Sounds to me like hanging with the boys and getting drunk were more important to him than your sister was.

I believe that if you could put yourself in a similar situation and the outcome be similar then by all means forgive. If you can look at yourself honestly and think that would never happen to you, then it is appropriate to say, moving on maybe the best bet.

We never know what fate holds for us.

Best of luck to you and your sisters!!!

RUN as fast as you can.....

I would never date anybody who drank beer while watching a group of homo-erotic, lycra clad nancy boys a whoopin' and a hollerin' as they bash into eachother aimlessly.

Sounds like that to me too... Unless it is all just BS. You know how screwed up us guys can be sometimes.

Personally I would avoid giving advise.
Could confuse her more hearing both her
sisters giving different opinions. I have been
the one to give advise to my brothers in the
past. In the end they were mad at me for trying
to help. Always a little touchy when it comes to
matters of the heart. Nice to see you, Wikked.
Hope all turns out for the best.

Seeing as how they've only been out once, there's no real reason to expect much from each other.

That being said... if it were me, I'd watch to see if this was the beginning of a trend.

I agree completely with you, Wikked. "Got out of hand" has to be one the lamest excuses ever. If it happened later in their relationship, that's one thing, but on the second date? Unacceptable.

I think it also shows right off the bat that he has no respect for other people's feelings!!!!!!

Hmmm... Methinks perhaps you protest over-much my dear Detente.

I agree with you too, wikkid. If he had made the phone before the date then maybe it could be excused but it shows he would rather be out with his buddies, drinking, watching the game than with her. He knew he had the date with her so he should have shown more consideration. If i had a date that night, i wouldnt have gone drinking with my buddies that day. I never drink during the day anyway but he could have at least stayed sober and watched the game and then taken her out that night. You don't have to get drunk to have fun!

Last night's game was really important...so I can see how he'd forget the date.

Yep, sounds like the young man doesnt have his priorities straight. He's not ready to be in a relationship. If he was he would have thought of her and called her before he got shit faced. Chances are he knew he was going to go to his friends house....he could have been upfront with her...tell her to kick him to the curb...

I'm with the majority of the women on this. If drinking with his buddies is more important than a second date...well, it only goes downhill from there!

Well ya know...some men just have their priorities straight!!!!!!!!!

Give him a swift kick in the junk.

Thanks everyone!

It's only there second date, and i know she really cares for this person, but i say get out of it before you're so immersed in it that you'll forgive anything, and it becomes a vicious cycle...

She was a "sports widow" to her ex-husband, i don't want to see her do that again...sports is one thing, but not at the expense of your relationship....

Well he should have rang to let her know. Chances are he might do this again if he feels she was so understanding last time. He should be dumped on the curb. I like my sport as much as any man but if a date clashes with it I try to reschedule for later in the evening and if that cant be done I go ahead with the date.

Hope she makes the right decision.