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If a therapist has a client, and they are not "connecting" with that client, they have the responsibility to refer the client to another therapist. In many cases, they will first try "self disclosure". Telling the client a little about them selves in hopes of making the client more comfortable, more willing to open up and be honest.

Many times we meet people and then find something about them that makes us uncomfortable. Profile after profile states they/we want honesty. Are we honest in return? There is an old saying that states, "we always see in others, that which we do not like about us"....

I have befriended a few, and have tried to do so with others but it appears to be going nowhere, there is little to no communication. Maybe I need to do some "self disclosure" to allow others to make a conscience and imformative decision as to the "if's" of having me for a friend.



In my last relationship, problems arouse, I could not put my finger on the problem, but I sure as hell felt it. One night when we went to bed, she asked me, "hey mister, do you want to fool around"? I looked at her ans said, "honey, it is going to take more than sex to fix what is broken with us"!

I had no clue and it took weeks for me to realize the the rejection and hurt that woman must have felt. One more time, I allowed my Battleship mouth to overrule my Rowboat ass.

My ex was using drugs, deep inside I knew but I was in denial. I really did love this woman and have love for her as a human being today. I simply choose to not want her back in my life. Her life is her journey, I am not the director of her (or anybody elses) life..

We are each master of our own ships.where we choose to lead them is another story.Noone else can or should have to do it for us.

Self disclosure is very tricky. Some people are comfortable with it, some are not.

If you have reached a level where you are comfortable revealing your thoughts, I am all for openess and I applaud you.

There are those that will tell you, I am an "opiniated" so and so..

"It is my life, I live it and I love it; let critisism be damned." Unless of course it is self or constructive critisism....

Short and sweet.......................ur irish

But, it sure does take the willingness for us to take an honest at ourselves and the willingness to be honest with others..

Honesty is a lot easier than lieing,less effort required.
I personally see no reason to lie or hide anything about myself...it all comes out sooner or later.
What you see is what you get and when you want to know more....you ask.
I like simplicity.....or maybe I'm lazy

Most people are opinionated...having ideas about a topic and letting people know what your thoughts are is the easy past. The tricky part is in how you voice your opinion....

Neither simplistic or lazy....just right!!

As stated, there are those times I allow my battleship mouth to overload my rowboat ass..

Being human and subjected to human error can be so difficult..

It works for me

AWWW just admit it ur an old grouch


Can't catch me I'm too far away

ME???????? An old grouch??? Sweet, innocent, obdient me???

And, you are only 2320 miles away, that only equates to a few hours..

Ur as obiedient as a rattlesnake is a mouse cage I bet lol but you are definately sweet.
It's a good bike ride in the summer...have to give it a try.

Great thread, and excellent observations.

Self disclosure, or candour, is something I look for with great eagerness.

Hell, to know the person you're chatting to displays a freedom with the good, and not so good about themselves is a sure sign I'm speaking to a genuine hooman!

Sacharine sweet is, and always will be, deeply suspicious to me.

Also, a humble person is never afraid to share their less than attractive qualities. But ironically, we can grow to love these people because of that very fact!

Nope, I'm a nutcase and proud of it!

Just hope I find me a fellow nutcase Princess.

An old saying I listen to and listen closely, "we are only as sick as our secrets".. When I rid myself of my secrets, it gives me freedom.

I stayed "sic" for way to many years, today I am happy, joyouse and FREE!!!!!!!!!!

Still hate Sacharine 'til this day.
Was the Main Sweetener you could get here during WW2.Sugar was rationed or plain unavailable.
Sacharine is a sweet that just doesn't ring true!

You're a good man HJ.

The forums do indeed serve their purpose - it gives you an idea of a persons thoughts, or for that matter, how they think. I hate being cliche', but the truth does indeed set you free.

-Robert