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Actually a person gotta think always ... that's why we do have those 10% of usefull brain cells.

We might be even get lucky one day and will increase the Horizon to 12%.

Keep it up Detente .... Me like it

butterflies

God, Yes. Fear is the killer of all that is good within ourselves (and everything good we want to do).

That's what I be thinking at this moment...

We only allow fear to shape the life we are not in charge of...

If someone takes your power...then you allowed them to do so...

Shoot me down...but on reflection...take it back...you know you can

All this philosophy is crap. Fear is necessary. Without it we would jump at anything. It is a safety mechanism in our psyche. If you don't have some fear in everything you do you will never know your limitations... Remember Clint Eastwood?... "man must know his limitations..."
I'm like many many people...been hurt several times in relationships and always when it gets good then I begin to fear that it won't stay good...then if I do get hurt I realize the fear and the pain that sometimes follows...but, it does not stop me from going for it again... no pain, no gain. I've had ladies tell me they didn't want to hurt me... my inner thoughts just say "hurt me baby! hurt me!"..... if I don't at least give it a chance then I'll never know what may have been.... is that philosophical enough? From the words of Abe Lincoln, I learned to work but never learned to like it....so, my words.. I've learned what pain is, I've never learned to like pain...but I know that without it and without the fear and taking that chance I'll never accomplish anything.

Yes, fear has shaped my life in the past for sure! OMG! Always seeming like I was waiting for the other shoe to drop. WHEW! Glad that shite is over!
I'm pretty stabe in life right now. That is not to say I don't fear. I have uncertainties now and again. None of which control me at all though.
Good thread read!

then it shapes your life as D suggests ... even if it is realization of fear and dam the topedoes I'm going in regardless.

and pain, hurt, are different from fear. Fear that you allow, or gravitate toward is no longer a fear but maybe a curiousity.. jmho.

It is that curiousity that feeds accomplishment don't not you think?

fear has gotten in the way of alot of things that I was too scared to do.

...and thus...fear by it's very nature stirs our choices...ergo...shapes us.

We all live in Fear or Faith. you pick every day.

I think we've all made that error from time to time; I'd rather be mistaken than afraid to try.

Yes sadly a lot of people let fear get in the way of things.. being cautious is one thing, but if you really want to make something work... you have to be able to overcome the fear, or maybe that's just an excuse not to meet...

I don't.
I FEAR NOTHING.

RISKING

To laugh is to risk appearing the fool.

To weep is to risk appearing sentimental.

To reach out for another is to risk involvement.

To expose your feelings is to risk exposing your true self.

To place your ideas, your dreams before a crowd is to risk.

To love is to risk not being loved in return.

To live is to risk dying.

To hope is to risk despair.

To try is to risk failure.

But, risks must be taken because the greatest hazard in life is to risk nothing at all.

The person who risk nothing, does nothing, has nothing and is nothing.

They may avoid suffering and sorrow but they cannot learn, feel, change, grow, live and love.

Chained by their certitudes, they are a slave. They have forfeited their freedom.

Only a person who risks is free.

i guess i would have to say for me.......fear shapes my life because i refuse to let it rule my life.......so it forces me to do things i might not otherwise


if that made any sense to anyone at all

I LEARNED a LONG TIME ago that when I AM afraid,I give the FEAR to GOD........AND GET BACK TO BUSINESS.

I suppose it's from your perspective; it's way off in this case though