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With all the prospective talks around on the forums i was just wondering ...

You are so much in awe of the person .. you are quite sure he/she is the one ..

what happens if the person doesnt turn out to be exactly as per your imagined image when you meet them in person ?

Do you accept them for being them cos you are in love ?

Do you reconsider and weight the pros and cons again ?

Or just plain withdraw ?

I've been down that road twice with people from here,so far the only way I've been disappointed is by their actions once we've met,what they say and what they do are not always the same thing.
It either works out or it doesn't ,but before meeting them I have to know them for a few months first.

It baffles me...this concept of being able to fall in love without any, or very minimal, face to face contact.

I can understand.

That's what cams and the phone are for.

A sorry substitue for FACE TO FACE contact.

You can't get a feel for a persons 'being' via a webcam chat.

Riya Asked -
"what happens if the person doesnt turn out to be exactly as per your imagined image when you meet them in person ?"

This has happened to me also.

I would most likely want to continue being friends - but would not settle.

Choosing a partner is too serious to ever settle for less than what we want or need.


Just my thoughts . .

After getting to 'know' each other,then you meet face to face.
Isn't that what it's all about?

withdraw

Helloo Reeee-yaaa

Well I try to keep an open mind.. and not zoom off too far ahead. (which is something I have been trying to master for most of my life haha)

I still fail to see how you can *love* someone you have never even met.

IMO Yes you can like their mind, their humour, their voice etc..

Even MAYBE 'love' the 'idea' of them... But until you MEET them your imagination fills in rest for you. (which is not always a GOOD thing imo)

If I met someone and it worked out really well.. Then we could go from there, and see what happened next. But if it didn't work out like that, then I would still think 'aahh welll... we had a good time in the process'.

Onwards and Upwards yada yada.

While I agree that you cant fall in love with someone youve never met I have been totally infatuated with somebody I met online and it can take over your life just as surely as if you loved them. The big difference is you get over it quicker. Personally speaking of course.

I agree Detente

Likewise .. euupphhoo

I agree with that too Star

I prefer to see the glass as half full. Of course the person will be different from what we have perceived. I welcome this difference as it will be but another portion of their being. So much more than what they already are. Cherish what you currently share and accept the new like the mystery it surely is. Envelop your self in what new comes and further together what you each have to offer. I do not believe in preconceived notions to the point of allowing them to entirely colour my perceptions.
I hope that she is somewhat different because everything she has been thus far has only served to draw me deeper into her and face to face I will complete my fall into ecstacy.
Positive thoughts birth possibility beyond the pale and every detail is the blessing of the future.
I will go to her with open arms, heart, and soul expecting nothing but her and who she is. And accepting every aspect for exactly what it is.

Mark

Infatuation is a big thing, I'll bet more people are infatuated with each other than people being in love with each other. But where is that line drawn? Maybe this should be it's own post.

I agree, you just don't know... but developing a strong connection with someone is a good start.. it certainly can't hurt.. its better that 'falling' for someone for PURELY physical reasons...

Yeah absolutely

Is it possible to draw a line ?