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Definitely a better way to start off. You get to assess soooo much out here. Assuming the person is honest , its a great aid to assesing their personality to an extent.

maybe there isn't a way to draw the line, thats why there's so many divorces. maybe they were only infatuated with each other and not really in love. maybe if there was a way to define that line it would be easier to understand love. Maybe there's a lot of maybes in this post......maybe?

I'm not sure sine I'm the same online as I am off and I'm sure she is the same, so not worried about it.

I don't think that anyone is the same online as they are in person, but what is read/written online shapes the way you see that person from the inside. I think that you really get to know what a person is truly like on the inside before you get to meet them. That's the true "them".
Their picture gives you an idea of what they look like so when you meet them you tend to overlook the minor imperfections on the outside because you already know the person on the inside. it's the inside that counts anyways.

From my point of view it's purely a matter of the feeling:

If it wouldn't be "clear from the start", I wouldn't weigh the pros and cons:
Because you never know in which way the other one turns out.
If there is any connection I'd gave it two dates and see later.

I think the connection you make with someone online is a really good start. It shows a meeting of minds, and not just of bodies. I like to be mentally stimulated!

It just gets better when you meet them in the flesh!

'Move on'.

Im not so much in awe with my internet boyfriend right now. We've been together for almost five months fighting together the distance, misunderstanding, confusion n etc. . Just like a real relationship, we have experienced the ups and downs of it. We fought, argued a lot, he missed to call me on my birthday , last Christmas and New Year ( how about that?) and of course talked long hours at msn. He tried calling me everyday and I always nag him of not calling me ( complicated me ). He knows I'm crazy sometimes and I also know that he's not a person he projected the first few months we started talking.
I actually see the worst of him from there and he sees the worst of me (complicated, fuzzy, disorganized, irresponsible, crybaby etc...) I said to my self, I have learned to love him so why not accept his flaws and If ever he's not the person he projected in our talks then maybe I have to hold on a little longer and accept him entirely. If it doesn't work at all after how we hold on together, then its time to stay goodbye.

My parents are married for 29 years now and all I can say they are not always happy in their lives. They fight a lot, both stubborn and controlling and was in the brink of leaving each other before ( countless times). I even saw them trying to hit each other and my mother getting a knife. We were there ( my brother and I). They are not just compatible, I know. But what amazes me, they are still together up to now... holding on with each other, fighting together and loving each other despite the flaws of the other.

From my parents situation, I have learned how to hold on and to sacrifice a little. I know it pays to wait and to hold on. It's love that I'm searching and thats what I ask from GOD every time I go to sleep. I ask not for riches, for material things but for a lasting love. And it depends to both of us.

very true...

hi Aries and Riya

PURELY physical reasons...very true...

hi beb.. good morning there... almost sleeping time over here.

hey girlie!!!! crazy difference in time....i wish you the best of dreams, you will prolly be sleeping when i get bck....

Having spent enough time on forums(during my work hours ) I think I can offer another view point no one has wrote yet.

LUST!

Yes lust, if you act now you can get Lust for a nominal fee of just 1,000,000,000 dollars. Free shipping and handling.

Anyways it's Lust that most people feel on here for members of the opposite sex. Realistically it's people pictures that draw people in at first. Physical attraction, lust plays a huge part in online dating. After that people usually ignore the fact that THEY HAVE NOTHING in common with the person.

I see this all the time after the forthcoming breakup. They make posts in the forum explaining what happened and it's always.........we'll we really didn't have much in common anyways, which makes me think either they were lying their asses off in the first place to everyone about how perfect he was for you, -----OR-----that you were blinded by lust and disregarded all his flaws.

Either way ask yourself if it was his-her pics that made you gaga about them in the first place and you'll have your answer. Please don't waste board space yapping that it didn't happen to you.......i can read your posts you know.

not yet... usually I stayed up until 12 or beyond that...


can't resist the forums here..

OK my thoughts on this are I think it really depends on the person. A totally different person. Time to back away if they lied that much about who they were, I don’t think it will stop there, and honestly is a big requirement in any relationship. Small differences are to be expected, face to face is a big step from phone, video, and chat, I think I would roll with it here because a nervous factor comes into play here as well.
As for how we imagine people I’m kind of open minded, my imagination is fun to play with but its not trustworthy. I used to imagine monsters under my bed, and the dust bunnies found there never lived up to my imagination either.
Through chat, phone, and video you get to know the insides of a person, well as long as they are honest.

I posted a “Taking A Risk” thread last night. If it’s turns out to be something that was not like you imagined it would be, you can always go back to where you started from.

Life is like that.

I would never think someone is "the one" based on exchanges in forums, Internet, IM or even telephone conversations. I will acknowledge that there is potential or possibility but as soon as I feel that I want to meet, now! not a few months from now. I guess I'm not very patient but I don't want to invest months into something and then find out there is nothing between us when we meet face to face.

Yeah!! Done both!! Although first one we didn't even get to meet as I realised too many things didn't add up and I backed off (after 5 months of communication and plans to get together) ... Last one we met as soon as ...

have u connected with anybody here HJFinAZ?

I mean have you talked heart to heart with somebody and spent most of the your time talking to her.. have you poured out your misery to her, helped her out, her helped you out too?

There are more good-looking guys in the internet that showed interest but I'm not interested... what could probably the reason HJFinAZ?

Because if its his physical attributes I'm so crazy about, I cant be attracted with a balding guy.. that only shows pictures of his face unless he has a lustful face .We sometimes don't use cam...lately for more than two months we've been talking mostly over the phone, its either me calling him or him calling me. Or maybe its his voice I'm so crazy about...? lol..



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