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Ok, So My Baby's father showed up yesterday around 1ish to give me a handfull of paper work that just so happens to be that he wants full custody of the baby when she is born. I have no idea how he manages to do it but he told me his lawyer said he has a good shot. I was completly blind sided by this and have no idea what to do..

find a better attorney and fast!!

WTF?
IS HE TOTALLY OUT OF HIS FLIPPING MIND?

Unless ur a drug fiend or axe murder cleverly hiding your second life,no freaking way in HEXX will he get full custody.
DO NOT sign any papers and tell him where to get off or give him my addy and I'll tell him


I don't know if you have a lawyer or not but sound like you need a family law specialist,I'd give you the name of mine but I'm up north.

oh shit

I dunno how it works over there Leni... but here.. unless he can PROVE you are an unfit mum he hasn't got a leg to stand on.

Does he have anything on you? (you don't have to say btw)

I completly fell to the ground when he said that i knew he was coming but i was planning on asking him to sign over custody cuz he'll never see her from TX and he has a new gf and everything out there but apparently he wanted to do the same thing to me. And what gets me is I don't know how he can be this big of an A$$ he knows what this means to me.

I agree. Get a good lawyer that specialises in family and don't sign anything without consulting your lawyer. Chances are these are just scare tactics. He's obviously very selfish and a complete idiot if he thinks putting you under this much pressure and stress is good for you or the baby. Unless he can prove you are an unfit mother,he hasn't got a leg to stand on because 9 times out of 10, the courts will give custody to the mother. I'm no expert so i think the sooner you hear this from a professional, the sooner your mind will be put at ease. I'd also suggest that you tell him if he wants to contact you to do it through your lawyer. Like i said, this stress is not good for you or the baby so the less contact you have with him, the better!

I don't think so, like I'm not a druggie, I have a home and a job, I don't know what he could use against me unless its stuff from my teen years but does that even count.

I just think he's gonna pull the military card and just chock me up to be some slut.

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Don't let him get to you,unless there are major skeletons somewhere,and I mean major,the best he will get is the standard custody until the baby is older.
Here that means every other weekend,alternating holidays and birthdays and summer vacation.
If he lives in another state joint custody would be out because of schooling but I'm jumping ahead.... I think I may be madder than you sorry...it just gets to me.

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OMG !! Sounds bad !!

I have no clue how it works but u do need a good attorney quick .

yeah, I have no idea what he's thinking either, I don't get how he'd even have a chance seen as he's been missing for 5 months...


But i have to ease the stress spent all yesterday in the hospital after he left i collapsed my blood pressure sky rocketed thank god everythings ok.

Hard as it is try to keep calm for the sake of yourself and the baby. You can get loads of support from your friends, but the only person that can give you right advice is a lawyer, the sooner you do this and understand exactly what your position you will feel better.

Not good.......take the day off to do nothing but nothing
Let it drop for a few days and get some rest,neither you nor the little one need this crap right now.

See? This is exactly what i mean! Tell him to talk to your lawyer in future. You need this stress like a hole in the head. What is it with him that he thinks he can desert you for five months and then suddenly show up, shouting the odds? Guys like that give the rest of us a bad name!

what an injustice to a mother and to an unborn child...???!!

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just shoot his penis or cut it off.....if you can......

he may be totally a nut case...

just give me his mobile number ...i know how to play with these types of ass hls....

1. Get a lawyer. Feel like you can't afford one? You can't afford NOT to. Period.
2. Have NO communication directly with the 'father'. If you must, the ONLY sentence you say to him is "communicate with my lawyer". Not one word beyond that sentence, ever.
3. Do #1 immediately.
4. Leave ALL the bullshit for the lawyer to deal with, not you.
5. Sit back and relax and enjoy the wonders of your pregnancy.

I always thought custody cases where handled by a state to state matter. Differing laws and guidlines from state to state when custody of a child is in dispute. Some states simply do not recognize others state courts rulings or decisions.

Check your home state laws pertaining custody... if this is ruled in his favor in Texas it may only mean you'll have to avoid the surrounding states of Texas as well as Texas. neighboring States usually will enforce each others laws and decisions.

Another option is relocate to a state where maternal custody rights are strongest.

Good Luck and do not procrastinate on this matter.

Hmmmm could i use maybe post war depression I forget what its actually called but when the soildiers come back from war and they are total nutcases. Whats that called agaiN??? He did have 3 tours and only got back a co uple months before i met him. So he's been back from Iraq for about a year. Maybe he really is nuts

Hmmm Did he not leave you when you were Pregnant?..How does that look for Him!!!!!!!!..Oh My..he is pulling ur f@@king Leg..Dont Sign anything until you get the facts and have a lawyer...You do not need this stress..You dont do anything...Let the Lawyer do it all..