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OMG i think I know what he's going to use against me.

yeah thats right..

I don't care what he has, there is no excuse for treating the mother of his unborn child like that. He should have more respect for you, pregnant or not!

It had better be danged good if he thinks he can win otherwise he's a snowball in hell.

If you hadn't been in contact with him since you left TX, how did he know where to find you?

I don't think its really good but its the only think I can think of. and it does make me sound pretty bad.


Ok so, when i first met the 'father' I didnt really know anything about him he just came here from TX I got hurt at this party i was at i fell and hit my head and he just took me to the hospital for stiches and we hung out for a couple of weeks then did the dirty (conception date 1 + Only time) afterwards i found out he was related to an ex of mine they were cousins and this is really embarassing but he was the one i was dating when i was 18 and got pregnant and had a miscarriage. I don't think thats enough to take her away but IMO it makes me look really bad.

I was never in TX he was in CA and left me to go to TX he just went to my Dad's house and boom there I was.

Are you supposed to know who each and every man on earth is related to?
That was then and this is now.....I don't see how that has any bearing on custody.
Just try to relax and get round to seeing a layer as soon as you can without overdoing it.

So you got pregnant before and had a miscarraige. That doesn't make you a bad person or an unfit mother. He would want to be a pretty mean person to try to use a tragic thing like that against you.

i don't know i'm totally blindsided by this... My dad is going out to look for a good lawyer in a little bit he's better at that stuff than I am. This just really sucks.

I know there is probably no point in saying this but try not to worry. Once you get a good lawyer, he can't bother you. The lawyer might even suggest getting a restraining order against him to show him you mean business and don't need to put up with his harrassment anymore. Then you can relax and concentrate on yourself and the baby

I don't know the backround and you have not given very much detail (understandably) but rest assured that if your children are happy/well cared for and have not been the subject matter of any Investigation by Social Services.. your outlook is good.. most Court's main concerns are for the childs welfare - physical, emotional etc.. and will not take a child away from his/her natural mother unless there are serious concerns.. however, if parentage isn't at issue and this man is the child's father it is likely that he will be awarded some degree of access.. unless again there are any issues which may cause concern...

I don't know what the system is like in the US, but as advised seek the advise of a Lawyer as soon as you can.

What is the law like in the US with re to unmarried fathers (that is assuming of course that you are not married), if you do not place the fathers name on the birth certificate would/could this have an impact on the situation?



Best of luck

I agree

I read somewhere that if he isnt there for the Birth certificate I don't have to put him on, and if he isn't on the Birth Certificate its harder for him to do all this cuz he'll have to petition the court for the DNA test. Is this true?

Yes
If his name isn't there he has to prove parenthood.

The only downside is if you want support at a later date you have to prove he's the father.

I dont care about child support i can manage that on my own i just want him off my ass.

no name then