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Is a normal thing that someone wants to have a serious relationship with you but not to get married or live together???

I can understand the not getting married again part, as I do not want to ever get married again, but the living together part I dont understand. Everyone has reasons behind their choices though. I suppose the question has to be can you accept the choices?

Normal, what is normal? And you're asking US??

You haven't been here long have you?

No kidding, welcome to the funny farm.

maybe

Considering that a stable relationship doesn't work living away from the other partner, I think the best choice in this case would be: turn around, go away, never come back.

how come?

well most times not always its a way of someone saying Lets take it a step further but take it slow.. and i do mean slow..

Yes so true, the last thing anyone wants to do is make the same mistake they have done in the past or be hurt like they have in the past.

I have certain things I will and certain things I will not put up with again and my opinion is if my new partner doesnt like it, Its see ya later don't let the door hit you where the good lord split you. Harsh? maybe but if we do not learn from previous mistakes then we will eventually end up going down the same road again.


I dont believe you are being told I dont want you. I believe she does want you but would like to take it slow.

In other words she wants Mr Right but not Mr Right now!

Life is so varied a person may have many reasons for wanting a monogamous relationship but to keep it at a distance until they are more secure.

Sounds like a perfect arrangement to me, my friend!

Keep living the dream!!

maybe she just needs more time

I think it would be the ideal relationship in some ways.

Probably because, apart from my marriage, I always maintained my own place. There needs to be space in a relationship. I do not need to be in a man's pocket 24/7 and a man who wants that from me makes me a little nervous after a while.

It takes a great deal of integrity and trust and only works with grown ups who understand commitment.

IT SOUNDS, U ARE LOOKING FOR A SPARE WHEEL 4 UR VEHICLE....

IF IT IS A SERIOUS ONE IT SHOULD COMPLETE WITH A MARRIAGE..!

Why shouldn't it not be normal?
I know many couples which have a distance relationship because of their work. These couples are meeting each other only on the weekend.
And for my opinion, I think it is a good way to keep a healthy relationship. Everybody need his own space. Now I'm single with my own way of life, which I don't would keep up from one day to another.
If both parts have a own apartment, which they could do what they want is it good. You can visit the other for days, weeks or longer, but if you have enough or if you have clash you can turn around and you can go in your own house until you both have calm down.
And btw, such a situation can keep your relationship exciting and new. You don't see the other very day or minute, you have in every time much to talk about, you have more lust. If you life together, there will be all come to daily things and you will end in boredom.
And or me, I like my independence and with these I'm happy and if my partner like it the same there will be all good. Two happy people in a relationship.
For me, the ideal way.

I think *normal*... is whatever the couple are both happy with.

everything is normal and nothing is normal, that is quite normal in a normal person that leads a normal life!

getting married is normal, living together is normal, living in separate houses is normal too!

getting married = legal implications, tax decuctions perhaps

living together = same as above without a commitment?

living in separate house = same as above without having to share the duvet!

I agree.

My parents divorced after 19 years of marriage, mum met a lovely man and they have been together, very happy, for 21 years...unmarried. He did ask her, many times but she didn't want to marry again.

Is a normal thing that someone wants to have a serious relationship with you but not to get married



........yes




or live together???




.....no

How about a guy's knapsack? (Much less confining than a pocket, right?)