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I have never known you to just hint at anything.........


ME????????? Direct, open & honest?? Not me!!

I agree with Buster. Sometime we lost in a frenzy with the company of our friends giving so much of ourselves that we tend to lose our identity. But being selfish is not an option. We just need to be back on the track by spending more time with ourselves. Mull it over Daniel.

I will... thanks ImTan

Yes I know of who you speak......

but you are keeping yourself in that hell..

let go so you can live a full and happy life in the future..

if need be speak to a relationship counceller..

about learning to let go..

do it for yourself..

you owe it to YOU......

I Believe


I believe that the sun shines after the rain
I believe if you don't get hurt you'll never gain
I believe in not doing things the easy way
I believe that being selfish doesn’t pay

I believe in a second chance
I believe in a life long romance
I believe there is life after death
And standing up to a life of mess

I believe in love at first sight
I believe that revenge isn’t right
I believe that first impressions last
And there is nothing better then a good laugh

I believe that dreams do come true
I believe there's destiny for me and you
I believe that good things come to those who wait
I believe love never arrives too late

I believe something good comes from something bad
I believe that for tears of happiness there are tears of sad
I believe everyone has a guardian angel
And the good you do will be rewarded well

I believe sometimes there is no explanation
I believe money can't buy people's affection
I believe you don't know what you've got until it's gone
I believe a new day arrives with every dawn

I believe a smile can be contagious
I believe in being very outrageous
I believe in living with no regrets
I believe that life is as good as it gets

I believe that God watches over us
I believe the little things are worth the fuss
I believe you have each friend for a reason
I believe you will get punished for treason

I believe that what comes first is family
I believe we should all live in harmony
I believe in making the most of a beautiful day
And it's not the end until everything's okay

I believe absence makes the heart grow fonder
I believe you will lose if you sit and wonder
I believe every experience teaches you a lesson
And nothing cures better then a drinking session

I believe everyone has one true love
I believe sometimes we need a little shove
I believe the whole world is a stage
I believe we only get better with age

I believe that to learn you have to live
I believe that to love someone you have to give
I believe one moment can change your life
And there's still help when you’re in strife

I believe everyone has one true friend
I believe love helps a broken heart mend
I believe in the power of a song
And things will change before too long

I believe living is the best experience
I believe in not laughing at other people’s expense
I believe it’s hard to watch a lover leave
And when they’re gone all you can do is breath

I believe to always look on the bright side
I believe that life is just one big ride
I believe when I die people will grieve
But it’s ok because I believe

Kayla Neil




Believe Daniel, believe.

[quote][Cheers Zell, I didn't mean to rant, it's just a personal irritant of mine when I personally get told by the people around me that this will happen or that will happen ....... how the f**k does anyone know that LOL /quote]

I totaly aggree both you and Zell which is not unusual in Zell's case as much of what she post on here i agree with.

Some of us will spend our single but this does not mean we have to be alone. Frankly i think i'm going to end up as a mad old cat woman but least the cats will benifit

Why waste our limited time on earth here waiting for someone to fill the gap in your life take control fill the gap your self.

There are contradictions in your statement, when someone is reaching out and someone posts a response they are seeking to put that arm around someone first and foremost......just as your reponse is your own personal comfort message...imposing your own personal view trying to narrow his acceptance to your imput and yours alone gives him far fewer choices in finding happiness.Your suggestions have weight, and merit thought and consideration from Daniel as he is seeking answers and a lift from his melancholy, but your criticism is off base when you suggest that by me telling him to hang in their(keep your chin up) and send out emails and flowers to those that peak his interest is absolutely to the opposite effect of "kind of lying to him"?
no suggestion of "wait"was ever made to him by me .
Further more saying take a break, get some air, and see a doctor suggesting that a wounded heart is simply a result of clinical depression further speaks to how well you listen to him......He wants a mate bad ,not a prescription for something to dull those very senses he seeks to share and quicken en route to profound fullfillment. It may or may not happen? I disagree!!!!!lol. Walking away for long or short.... will guarantee you one of those options for long or short...And sticking to a mans guns when It comes to knowing what we want pushing forward not sulking and shriveling is the only way to get the other of those options..."It may" After all
LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT!!!!!!!!!

And I don't like to rant but it pisses me off when people speak with out thoroughly thinking something out.......Daniel Knows who he is and Knows what he wants don't stear him away from that!!!!!!!
He feels broken and right now he can truly feel!!!! Speak to his feelings not your own agendas, vulnerabilities should be softly spoken to...not forcibly!

Yeah, and you know who one of them is that made my life a living hell.. no need to say any names.




One more time, I shall be the bearer of bad news. NOBODY, can make OUR lives a living hell, unless WE allow it..

There are contradictions in your statement, when someone is reaching out and someone posts a response they are seeking to put that arm around someone first and foremost......just as your reponse is your own personal comfort message...imposing your own personal view trying to narrow his acceptance to your imput and yours alone gives him far fewer choices in finding happiness.Your suggestions have weight, and merit thought and consideration from Daniel as he is seeking answers and a lift from his melancholy, but your criticism is off base when you suggest that by me telling him to hang in their(keep your chin up) and send out emails and flowers to those that peak his interest is absolutely to the opposite effect of "kind of lying to him"?
no suggestion of "wait"was ever made to him by me .
Further more saying take a break, get some air, and see a doctor suggesting that a wounded heart is simply a result of clinical depression further speaks to how well you listen to him......He wants a mate bad ,not a prescription for something to dull those very senses he seeks to share and quicken en route to profound fullfillment. It may or may not happen? I disagree!!!!!lol. Walking away for long or short.... will guarantee you one of those options for long or short...And sticking to a mans guns when It comes to knowing what we want pushing forward not sulking and shriveling is the only way to get the other of those options..."It may" After all
LIFE IS WHAT YOU MAKE OF IT!!!!!!!!!

And I don't like to rant but it pisses me off when people speak with out thoroughly thinking something out.......Daniel Knows who he is and Knows what he wants don't stear him away from that!!!!!!!
He feels broken and right now he can truly feel!!!! Speak to his feelings not your own agendas, vulnerabilities should be softly spoken to...not forcibly!

Good words, Buster....


You know, Daniel, life IS what you make of it....


Have you counted your blessings lately???

Does not having someone to date make such a difference right now???Would it make your life suddenly wonderful?

Heck, if waited for someone else to arrive and make my life better by dating me, I'd be sitting here forever alone and bummed!

There's lots of other things to explore in life...away from the computer...out the door...down the street and over the hill!!!



When the going gets tough, the tough get going!!

aw sweetie, you are just killing me

This may sound really harsh, and I don't mean it to... but it sounds like you are quite comfortable in the martyr roll, and to be honest I don't think there are many women who would read your posts and say "now that's a guy I want to get in touch with" it's wonderful to be an open, caring and sensitive man, but you can take it a bit to far... Doom and gloom, wooo is me is not going to attract... We all need time to get over relationships and if that is what you are doing here with your CS friends then so be it, but if you are trying to move on and meet someone new... lighten up. Buddy had some very good advice, until you feel complete in yourself it is very difficult to have a good relationship with anyone else. There is more to life then romance. Again don't mean to sound harsh, Big Hug and good luck

Hi Daniel...This has helped me through many times of feeling the way you are.....hope it helps ...





After a while you learn the subtle difference
Between holding a hand and chaining a soul

And you learn that love doesn't mean leaning
And company doesn't mean security.

And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts
And presents aren't promises

And you begin to accept your defeats
With your head up and your eyes open

With the grace of a woman, Not the grief of a child

And you learn to build all your roads on today,
Because tomorrow's ground is too uncertain for plans
and futures have a way of falling down in mid-flight.

After awhile you learn that even sunshine
Burns if you get too much

So you plant your own garden and decorate your own soul,
In stead of waiting for someone to bring you flowers

And you learn that you really can endure...
That you really are strong
And you really do have worth,
and you learn and learn...
With every good bye you learn.

sorry that was Buster, not Buddy!

Daniel, all the advice and clichés in the world mean very little, so I'll spare you and just say, you are a good friend in my universe.

Leo

Daniel




The first thing you neeeeed to do .. is STOP looking.. you are torturing yourself.

'Good things come to those who 'wait' remember.

Second thing you need to do.. is stop worrying so much about everyone else.. and start looking out for YOU.

Third thing you need to do .. is *RELAX*... relax.. calm down.. stop looking.. have fun.. and just be YOU.

Stop worrying.. stop wondering.. stop panicking.. and STOP *looking*..


THEN... give it some time.. and see what happens.


Daniel.. I am 100% sure you WILL find the woman of your dreams .. IF you do that ^

You are absolutly right.. I do know what I want..and proffeshional help is not what I need.. I have never seen councerlers myself, but I have talked to them when I have taken friends to see them.. and there was nothing any of them could tell me that I haven't already done or tried to be of help to my friend or friends at the time..

As for flowers and emails, I have sent them, and I have tried.. What I am tired of is putting so much into trying to make something work, or something out of nothing, and never getting the same back... it is a waste of my time, and I am truly tired of it... but stupid me.. I still held out hope that if I kept trying my efforts would pay off... man was I ever wrong.. so to one that i tried with for so long that never really gave back forget you, and I am sorry I tried to make a go of it with you.. it's only because of your own unwillingness to work together and your own insecurities that it didn't work... not because of me, and you know this to be true....

EXACTLY.... so STOP.

I would love to take you on the p*ss you know.. get a fair few Tequilas down you neck and see you actually *RELAX*

We are all givivng our opinions and in our own way trying to help and offer support, i hope you find something in our posts that bring you comfort and strength.

no advice......just an understanding ear and a box of tissues