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hmmm I don't think I said it like that... if this post is ment for me...

The bottom line is.. all of us, including me, have our weak moments, why? because we are all human... I am not defending anything, I said how I felt, and what was on my mind.. if what I said about how I feel and what is on my mind offends anybody, it was not ment to, but if it did, then I am sorry that some of you might have been offended..

As for me.. I don't apologize for what I posted.. but at the same time, it wasn't ment to offend either..

Thanks.. no you don't carry it with you into the next relationship, because the next person doesn't deserve to be put into someone elses shadow.. it wouldn't be fair to do that.. sadly though, that is what a lot of people do with the next person...

As for becomming heartless, I can't go against my nature, and be somebody who I am not, no matter what someone else has done to me.. I refuse to change who I am because of somebody else.. I am me, and that is all I ever can be..

I am not one of those that like to play things in the middle.. where uncertianties lay.. To me.. it's either this way.. or it's that way.. no inbetween... but there are far to many people that play in the middle and can't seem to make up their mind and give you a straight answer..

Thanks..

[quote][I am not one of those that like to play things in the middle.. where uncertianties lay.. To me.. it's either this way.. or it's that way.. no inbetween... but there are far to many people that play in the middle and can't seem to make up their mind and give you a straight answer../quote]

In that Daniel, you & I are alot alike. I've been accused of not being able to see the "gray" area... for me it's either right or it's wrong. You either are interested in a person and show it, or you're not and you tell them so...you don't play them along with the thought that they're there as a back up. I've even been accused of being "structured"...keep wondering if that's such a bad thing (especially as a secretary).

I've also gone through times when I give up on the on line option of finding someone and pull my profiles, go a few months and then reactivate, usually only to find the exact same people on the site. I keep wondering why it's so hard to find someone, and then I remind myself that I'm not going to settle for the first person who shows an interest, that I'm going to hold out for what I want...10 years...still single and not wanting to be.

So...do what you need to do, handle it the way you need to handle it and stay true to yourself.

Yes I intend to.. even if it means that I may have upset some people and possibly messed anything up.. at this point I don't care anymore if what I have tried to do matters or not.. Thanks..

Daniel, Daniel, Daniel...

You do not need someone to make life worth living. Just existing? In order to be fully happy in a relationship, you need to be fully happy with your life alone. There's nothing wrong with wanting a relationship. We all do, but say you merely exist without one?

I personally am stopping looking for love for the entire year. If Mr. Right comes along this year, great. If not, oh well. I'm going to do all the things that I put off while with the "Hurricane", get my life in 100% order, and make myself happy. If he hasn't come along by December 31, 2008, which is my goal for completing all the things I want to do, I will go back to looking for him.

I've been systematically deleting all the profiles that I remember I have. This is the only one staying and thats for my friends here in the forums.

I want someone with me to share the experiences with, but I'm not just going to exist while I wait for him. I am going to live my life to the fullest, so I have no regrets for what I "could have" done in my times without a relationship.

I didn't mean that I have to be in a relationship to be able to live.. before I met my last ex, I was alone for two years before I started seeing someone, and I was happy with who I was, and still am.. it's not because i'm not in a relationship that I feel I am just existing... there are a lot of other reasons.. although having a special someone would be nice.. and help make things better, I don't need one to make me live, just want one to help inhance me.. Thanks..

boy this birthday sure made her smart

Who's birthday?

Daniel as you know your answers lay within you and I need not tell you that you are beautiful

Thanks cusp.. yes time for some serious and tough decisions..

Daniel, all I can say, ponder deeply prior to reaching any decisions.

Just don't forget that life's got its ups and downs.

And I won't tell you that you'll find whatever you're looking for, just stop looking and let things run their course. Sometimes its worse trying to plan ahead, especially when another person is involved, as we don't have any control on their reactions and feelings!!

Thanks P... there is no other person anymore..

Just don't give up. One never knows what the future holds!!

As the saying goes, there are plenty of fish mate!!

Oh I have no intention of giving up... just going to slow way down... whatever happens happens.. whatever does... does.. that's the best way I can put it.. thank P

Wow...I look at your pic and see a man...that spends time taking care of him self...working out,staying fit... I see your location...great place where others may never get to see or visit...I see the pic of the angels...and see in this pic..a valkery(sp) standing by...waiting to take the man whos given up on life, to Valhalla...she is only waiting...what else is in this pic...large amounts sand...sand that is constantly changing with the wind...like life...there is open blue skys in the back ground with small amounts of clouds...like life...

sooooooooo we can think that life or look at life as nothing but solid sand and cloudy skys..............
Orrrrrrrrrrrr we can think of life as soft changing snads...and life as more of open blue skys...

Depresson is never fun for anyone...we let our minds become so full of the negitave crap...that we cant see past that wall....when infact...just on the other side of that wall...is a fresh new view...fresh new start...a fresh new cup of java...........

Being depressed and trying to meet folks...never a great combo...as when we meet someone and they are depressed...we see and feel it...and run...we all have our own things in life that give us blue days...so we dont want to have anyones blue days bringing us down....we want to laugh,have fun,play and forget crap.

You have lots of friends...that love you and want to be there for you...you dont need anyone to hold your hand...look at all the thing sin your life that youv done and are proud of...look out the window and set new goals for yourself...start a new fun hobbie,take a trip,scuba dive with sharks,...anything....stop looking sooooooo hard for the special someone...she will find you...shes out there right now looking for you....when the time is right...bam...when your not looking...booya...it will happen.....sooooooooo no more looking so hard........start thinking more of your self and for yourself...by enjoying life and allllllll it has to offer...hmmmmmmmmmm bet youv never been to thiland,or newfoundland,or maby having a free day...try spend the day doing all the free things that you can think of...its fun...my buddies and i do it all the time.................there is more to you then sitting infront of a computer poundering...WHY..........................

this is all just my 2 cents.........the military has showed me the true ugly side of life...I'm putting that to my use...and making sure Iv done all and seen all b4 im pushing up flowers frm 6ft under...Im not waiting for anyone nor spend my last day looking for someone...if I meet some ont to share it all with...then thats a cool thing...if not...then im still going to have fun....as should you>>>>>>>.

get a pice of paper and jot down all the things you want to do...and start with number 1......................................now go have fun

Hi Daniel...

Sometimes I feel like an empty shell myself.
Then I realize I still have so much to offer.
No one can ever take what you have away
unless you allow them to do so. What you
have to give is unique and personal. The
only thing you have lost is what someone
is not willing to give to you. You still remain.
For that, I am thankful. As I'm sure many
will agree. angel:


CB:

Good advice.. but I am already doing some of the things you have suggested.. and yes I have been to Newfoundland.. my mother was born there, and I am half canadian.. but no I have not been to those other places you mentioned.. but I have been to many places in the US.. and this is one of them.. I have only been where I am for about a week now, and I don't know anybody yet, but I am familarizing myself with the area.. Thank you for your thoughts..

Thank you CB.. what you said means a lot, and I really appreciate it.. I really do.. I will be back to my old self before to long.. just need a little time.. thanks..

daniel babe im thinking of you x