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My dad is 10 years older than my mom and they been together 34 years and my sister's husband is 12 years older than her and they been together 16 years.

In this case, with a 3rd party, I would say the younger woman is hard up or looking for daddy or just Whacked!!!

I'm not one to pass judgemnet on anybody. It's not my business and I feel age has nothing to do with love in a relationship. Now the cheating aspect is wrong to me even with an "agreement" if the roles were reversed I would and I was the "boyfriend" it would bother me. Public eye or not. If this business relationship does business with me and i would find a situation like described, I would seriously have to reevaluate exactly what kind of person I was doing business with. If he's living a lie in his personal life can he really be trustworthy in business? Just a thought.

"WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THE YOUNG WOMAN TO DO?"

Count her blessings. Nothing can compare to the bliss of being with an older man. Trust me on that.

Jeff

A Young woman meets a very much older man, through her hobby.. she is charmed by him; and he flirts with her and gives chase for a time....

He is always lingering around making her laugh, and THINK about things, and he is flirting; giving all the signals he wants her to be his....

Finally she gives in, and falls for him.

BANG ~~!~!~!!! He tells her that he has a girlfriend, but they do not live with each other and have not for many years, and they have no physical relationship, but rather only a business relationship that is in the public eye.
Her (his girlfriend) only remaining family is near death and he is attening the famliy things as her partner to save face. She goes back into her little living hut, and he stays alone still deticating his extra time to his young love.


She knows his time is limited, but she loves him and does not care to be centre stage of the public eye where he is concerned, but rather as his caring partner... caring for him all throuh the year without others knowing...

From time to time they go out into the world and smile with each other around others... the gaze is bad for some know him and she is no one, they look and wonder??????? But none know that he is dying, they only see a much older man with a much younger woman.

Is it is better to have loved one last time, than to have not fallen in love again?
Is it selfish to put this young woman through watching him die?
Is it selfish that they choose to live like this in the shadows for fear of insult?

How would you see these two in a public way....without knowing the story behind?
WHAT WOULD YOU TELL THE YOUNG WOMAN TO DO?heart wings




Such a beautiful story --- Well it is now difficult to answer since I have read the situation--- but the norm has been answered by previous posters--- Love is Always between the two people - Every other inlfuence within this bond has no place in it.

Hmm.... this has caused quite a few posts, I am shocked with it~!

Now the age differnce is...23 years between them both....

Is it really cheating if his girlfriend is aware of the fact that he is involved with others?

Now according to her; he encourages his girlfriend who does not live with him to find someone else and be happy, she chooses not to.

This friend of mine is worried about a few things as well regarding their relationship, but she has chosen to ignore them for now.

Against the better judgement of her family and friends she has decided to continue seeing him.

Now I am wondering what it will be like to help her pick up the pieces after all is said and done.
I still think that this is not going to work out for her, I guess in a perfect world we would only see what each of us want to see, but wht is it that she see's that makes us blind?

I guess my next question is why the term girlfriend is being used. He's told her to move on, obviously because he's happy with the younger woman.

As to what does she see that makes us blind. In what way? Because she has chosen to be with an older man? If that's the question, what does it matter what she see's? It's irrelevent what anyone else perceives as long as they are both happy.

Do I detect just a Tinge of Jealousy that the "Old Codger" still "Got It"?

Rather have a finished oil painting than a rough sketch

Now don't everyone shoot me for my opinion here please!! There's 2 sides to every story and I don't think both sides are listed in the story above. So here's my take on the situation.

When a dying old man chases after a young woman and he already has a girlfriend, there's something wrong with this scenario. Perhaps he wants to try to get his last "piece" like a young stud before he "kicks the bucket." No young woman in her right mind is going to put her life on hold unless there is some money involved for her, either now or in the future after he's gone. Ever hear of a goldigger?

Doubt a young man would hook up with an older dying woman if she had a boyfriend. Of course, if there was some money involved for him...he might reconsider and become the ultimate young giggolo stud...right to the end of her life. :

Shame on the old man, he is a phony, attending his first girlfriend's family things as her partner to save face. And playing around with a young girl, making her believe he cares. Don't hear him asking her to marry him! scold:


I feel sorry for the young girl and disgust for the older man. Sounds like he may have been a skirtchaser in his lifetime. What happened to faithfulness?

Would he remain with the young woman or even get involved with her if she were at the end of her life and he was healthy and vibrant? Would he still be interested in her? I wonder.....hmmm! :

I'd sit down with the young woman and have a serious sensitve talk and let her see the pros and cons of the situation at hand. But ultimately, she has her reasons for staying with him or moving on. She'll do what she wants to do anyway. Life is strange...and there is probably more to the story than just what was written.


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