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No i don't think you can judge people on that

what a difference a day makes sorry no music vid to go with this.

well off to work,

This goes back to the love and lust thread earlier. Maybe they're not really in love, and only in lust. When the lust wears off it's time for divorce. Did you ever stop to think that maybe they don't really know what love is.
I'd be really cautious, but I wouldn't give up on that person right away. In their search for love, you might be "the one" and in your search for love, they might be "the one". Is that something that you're willing to give up because they might not have found true love yet?

Past is past.....and I have no right to judge anyone.

The present is what counts.....move on from here.

been married 4 FOUR!!! times.

husband #!. he left me 2 weeks before our son was
born.

husband #2. he accused me of cheating, i did not,
he was the one cheating. trust was gone.

husband #3. he said money & possessions were more
than me & then he hit me & kicked me
& the kids out.

husband #4. he stopped working, expected me to
support him and his drug habit.

needless to say i have given up on marriage, just was not meant to be for me i guess. i also do not trust my judgement in men. all of the above said they loved me & wanted to take care of me and were very good to me BEFORE the "I DOs".

so IMO men are only good for 1 thing & 1 thing only & even THAT can be substituted with a mechanical device. although a mechanical device cannot wrap warm arms around you & hold you, which is something EVERYONE needs, even me.

What happens when the other person in the marriage has done something so despicable that there is no other choice but to leave, try to pick up the broken pieces of your life and move on as best as you can.
Why should the spouse that has survived all this be judged for getting a much needed divorce?
I was married ten years, my ex husband almost killed a girl, is it my fault he did this. I think not!
Life experience can teach you many things, even after ten years you may not know a person until you really find out about them in the hardest way possible.
Cest la Vie!

Tell that to Mickey Rooney.

I think 'THE REASON' for the divorce is very important. I personally do not feel concerned about how many times a person has been divorced ...

after all ......

Some people do not have many divorces under their belt, but may have a lot of 'living together' relationships that have failed ...

You should not judge any person - we are all different, and if we are blameless then let us cast the first stone ....

Your post bought back to me a comment made by my 2nd husband about a year after we were married.

' I don't have to try anymore i have you now' kinda summed it up really.

I agree with sirenna,couldn't have put it out there any better

Right on.

6 divorces? That's screwed up.

I'll let one go but more than that I say bye-bye.
More than one shows that if they are a bad judge of character or they themselves have something wrong with them, which they aren't likely to change since it's already cost them two marriages.
Either way, DANGER WILL ROBINSON, DANGER.

well just dont get too much of it....
devorced happend to be something which is not easy...for the both side....but sometimes...it needs to be done....for the sake of the good...

One divorce wouldn't concern me. I might even overlook 2 divorces if they seemed to be for extinuating reasons. But more than that and I probably wouldn't consider the person for a partnership.
It would show me that they either jump into marriages too quickly or jump out of them too quickly. Either path leads to failure and that's not what I'm looking for.

after the morning breakfast and 2 hours of conversation. I discovered everyone she married was at fault.

Yes from drinking to drugs to abuse to neglect to infidelity and abandonment .... I left the diner thinking how contrived 6 attempts six unique and different justifiable reason each husband had committed a different cardinal mistake.

She did make me laugh often, and she was easy on the eyes...her words did not match her body language or what was shown in her eyes.

I would be very wary of becoming seriously involved with anyone who had been divorced more than once.

They are either stupid/a bad judge of character/or have a flippant attitude to marriage IMO

Yep, I'm one of those evil divorcees

Four times

I'd keep clear of me, if I were ya'll

Hi Joanie

Four divorces is better than four mysterious deaths.

I have a cousin planning his 7th wedding.

I don't know him.

If I did I would like to ask 'why?'

Why would anyone marry 7 times? He must love women.

Shouldn't he be bitter?

This is fascinating . .

I can totally understand one divorce.. two.. hmm yep okay.

More than two?

Elizabeth Taylor!.. what the hell is wrong with you?!?









:::waits for Ship to smack her in the ear:::