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I am truly baffeled by the lengths that some people will go to just to cause hurt to the parent of their child.

My nephew is in his early 20's and has a daughter that is less than a year old...she is my first great neice and I love her with all my heart. Her mother on the other hand...is attempting to keep my neice away from my nephew and the rest of the family because she does not like the lady that my nephew is now dating....

this mother has gone to the point of making threats and stalking this new lady....she is attempting anything and everything to cause problems....she is accusing my nephew of doing drugs and leaving them out to where the baby could get to them....My nephew DOES NOT do drugs....he is tested monthly for his job and has never failed a drug test....he is one of the best dads I have seen. I was so worried when I found out that he was going to be a dad because he was always a little wild....he has settled down, and really changed his life around for the better...

does anyone else see the mothers behavior as harmfull to my great neice??? or am I over reacting???

I feel bad for the child as they pay the price for adult ignorance.

No...you're absolutely right...The mother is putting her jealousy and need for revenge ahead of the need for her own child to have a loving father in her life...He should go to court and because of her actions...He may just end up with custody...She's an idiot!!!!!!

thank you...I was beginning to think that I was crazy for thinking the exact same thing....

There's always 3 sides to every story:
This side. That side. And the truth that lies somewhere in the middle.

In any case involving the best welfare of a child, it's important to know all 3 sides. The adult's jealousy, insecurities, accusation, become completely irrelavent. The main focus should always remain what is best for the child.

Since I don't know anything about this family, I'd be hard pressed to make any kind of public declaration about what's best for the kid involved.

I'm sorry that the family unit is breaking apart and that people are suffering. I hope it all works out for the best.

He should be writing down everything. Dates and times, Tell him to start a diary. Anything, he can get in writing from her or voice messages. Can be taken to a lawyer. No parent has a right to keep the child from the other parent.

Absolutely!!!! Document, Document, Document, my sister went through a really messy divorce with an abusive control freak, who lied and tried to manipulate every situation, it was only through documentation and video tape that her kids are with her today. Have him prepare for court with concise non emotional evidence that counteracts what she is stating and proving her manipulation.

It's amazing how little concern some people have for their kids after a divorce, it's all about them and their need to continue to control the other persons life even though they're not a part of it any more except in regard to the kids.

Sorry if that was a bit of a rant, I just saw how much damage it can cause and for how many years it can continue and how messed up the kids can become by being in the middle of it.

it happens all the time,my nephew going thru same with his ex now
my ex took my kids,about killed me,friend with 4 kids no wife around sai"just let`em know you love themm,"they both moved when me when they became 12

I've been down that road and it causes untold harm to children. My ex played the good parent-bad parent game with my two daughters. I exercised my visitation rights and paid my child support and never did anything out of place when I had the girls with me. But when I transfered from Michigan to Texas I wasn't able to see them every other week. My mother and father started picking the girls up in place of me. Then the ex drilled it into their heads that I didn't care and proved it by moving far away from them. They were 6 and 11 years old at the time. I took me almost fifteen years to regain the love and affection from my daughters. Tell your nephew to document everything, have reliable (non-family) witnesses to back up his claim of being a good father. The mother's behavior will have a negitive affect on the child. Been to court on that issue too. Photos and documentation go a long way in a court.

This is very true. When I went to court for my divorce, it was horrible to listen to my ex lie. I thought to myself, OMG that lie sounds like something someone could believe. It boils down to which side the judge believes and he might just believe that lie. Luckily I had pictures of my bruised and swollen face to show the judge and I was granted my divorce.