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Are you jealous or possessive if so, how are you dealing with?
Relationship understands sharing but also caring for partner.
On the other hand we all need some credit/trust and privacy.
How to make balance?

I'm sorry but I just don't understand the concept of jealousy. Trust for me is one of the most important aspects of a relationship and without it there is no relationship. I'm a very monogamous person and when I'm with someone I am totally with them, if they have doubts or insecurity's about this the relationship probably won't work.

On the other side, I don't get jealous. If there is someone else my partner would rather be with then please, go be with them... I don't want someone who wants someone else.

I used to be really insecure, jealous and possessive when I was much younger.

Luckily, I realised what a crappy negative emotion it was and managed to find the root cause of it all and sort it all out when I was about 34 years old

So, for the last 12 years I've been hell of a lot calmer, happier, rational etc.

Jealousy eats away at us emotionally if we allow it to and can make us bitter. Bad emotion all round

I'm not jealous,but I SWEAR TO GOD, if you mess with my chick,I'LL........I'LL.......

Ditto

Niles got to have it!

I'm not really that much of a jealous person, but it would have to depend on the circumstances of the situation also.. jealousy can destroy a relationship very fast..

I'M NOT possesive,but honestly.....I REALLY don't like it when my woman wears short skirts in public.

Possessiveness and jealousy are not good ingredients within a relationship ...


However I am always a little careful when passing judgement as no matter what people say ... we only know one side of the story ... Some people use the "you are just being possessive and jealous" card to avoid looking at their own behaviour/attitude when they are not "taking responsibility" for not hurting their partner's feelings and act instead in a thoughtless, self-centered and self-indulgent way in order to boost their own ego ...

.. and if that's how they are... I'm not in that relationship! But you're right, there are a lot of people out there that play those stupid games!

Agreed!!! Costing me half of everything I worked my lovely arse for over the last 8/9 years just to get away from "that and other unhealthy mind games" ... worth every penny!!!

Agreed!!! I lived and I learned!!! Costing me half of everything I worked my lovely arse for over the last 8/9 years just to get away from "that and other unhealthy mind games" ... worth every penny!!!

Agreed!!! I lived and I learned!!! Costing me half of everything I worked my lovely arse for over the last 8/9 years just to get away from "that and other unhealthy mind games" ... worth every penny!!!

And still some like to tell you you're jealous and possessive and nuts while they really were out having an affair!!!!!!!

But it's all in your head!!!!!!!

I know!!


sorry bout multi post guys my puter froze and I thought it hadn't even posted

And I thought you were demonstrating just how angry you are!

im just push that down coz i know its wrong

I don't like possessiveness AT ALL.

But I think a 'touch' of the green eyed monster is quite healthy actually.

A TOUCH of..

Being overly jealous and/or possessive is just masking what the issue really is IMO, trust. For me trust is the foundation of a relationship, without trust you have nothing. I refuse to be with someone who cannot trust me, there's no point IMO.

I'm jealous when my man gets too 'comfy' around women but who isn't?