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Do you think it is a good idea to keep seeing people you were once physically and emotionally close to?

I have close personal relationships with almost all my exes.
I've even helped a few get dates. We were good friends to start & no amount of sex or incompatibility should ruin that.
:)

Thanks for your reply. You are very lucky to have nice relationships with your ex ones. Unfortunately, I don't keep in touch with noone as I feel that I have nothing to share with them anymore.

It's not that common for people to keep in touch after they've had such a conflict or emotional parting of the ways.
It's no on person that makes anything work, even after the fact.
Even friendships require two parties to make them work.

Good answer Spice -

I used to talk to my ex but he refused to pay support, didn't send his daughter birthday cards, etc.

I dislike him for her. He hurt her with his neglect.

Father's who don't support their kids hurt them emotionally even more than financially.

How can you be friends with someone who would hurt a child?
Especially his own, only child.

---yes

my ex is my best friend

...and you see, my ex from here cheated on me.
He hurt me but I had one of two choices:

Blow him off & lose our friendship. Problem with this is, once he no longer has to face me, he no longer has the reminder of his actions.
or
Forgive him & return to being friends(and never let him forget what he did was wrong). Maybe with this option, he would remember to honor his future mates.


... I reserve the right to remind him what a poor choice he made.
(and have done that a few times when she began cheating on him!)
Karma's a beast!
BUT... I'm still there for him, as a friend.

it is a personal choice. if seeing them move on and date new people is something that you will not be able to deal with emotionally, then probably not.

If you still have feelings for them as more than a friend, then chances are it's going to tear you up inside, watching them go on with life, while you are stuck thinking about what could have been!!

If you are over them, then yea y not??

I'm very close friends with one ex. Casual acquaintances with most of them.

it's hard being friends with old boyfriends. i've only been able to stay friends with one. every other guy was a moron and so stupid. but men are just that way anyway. they don't know a good thing, even if it's staring them straight in the face. i tried to saty friends with all of my ex's, but i just couldn't stay friends with them. the one that i am still freinds with, was the most difficult relationship i was in, but it was the best to. all in all, it was the most gratifying. it was also the longest relationship i was in. plus, it might have made a difference that he was a few years older than me. i still wish we could talk now and do things, but he has plans on marriying, so i don't want to mess that up for him because i still love him. if he feels ready to get married again, then i know he truely has love for this woman. i respect that. he's not one that is easy to catch. believe me, i've been there and i know.

Yes, definitely! Funny, i thought i hated one of them, so, when i saw this thread, i was about to say NO...but, mmm...all of them are on my messenger, we talk nicely! ...did i became tolerant or i don't really know myself?

pretty woman, walking down the street...lalalala

googie girl

Thinking back...even back to high school....once they've become an ex there's been no other contact. I'm only in contact with my ex husband is because he keeps trying to get money out of me....it's certainly not because I enjoy it....lol

The good ones yes......the bad ones no...........

I contact my ex when something significant is coming up for one of our children, for example my daugters communion is coming up in May so I will let him know the details and invite him to the family lunch we will have on the day

So perfect...never thought in that simple way of putting it! So right!

only one do i still talk with we are i guess pretty close friend and i think we are better this way then we were as a couple. now as for my other exes i don't talk to them and i try not to think of them why bother remembering the pain they brought into my life.

yup... and we are best of friends..he actually trusts me over his girlfriends..