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( going back to the closet)

Ask them how they felt about it.
If they wanted help, give it and/or find them someone who could help them.

I would still love her...i guess i would have more to love

AW!..

That was a good answer. Love your woman for better or for worse in "THICKNESS and health.

Lighten up, pun. You may be the cause.

love them

I'd be repulsed


No No kidding I would love them always if I loved them at all!

Help my favorite peson to loose the exess weight.Now here is the other side of the coin.You might go nuts over bolts trying to help your special person but you might get betrayed.Happened to a friend of mine.He started dating a dolphin but had 2 years later a whale.So after work he started running with her,went with her to joga classes ,consulted special nutrition classes to be able to help her.But all his efforts proofed fruitless.While he involuntarily dropped the pounds she gained in size.He got suspicious and followed her out to the garage in the middle of the nite some day and found her with a family pack of Donuts and an "Entenmann's crumbcake " in her hands and mouths .Needless to say he finished the relationship the next day.Your partner can't be weekwilled and not sneeky
Pete

If I loved someone I wouldn't just stand by while they gained all this weight in the first place.

Well, I would try to encourage them not to gain too much weight as I would have concerns for their health, of course, but otherwise, it wouldn't change anything. Its their soul and spirit I would be most interested in and the outer casing just carts that around, doesn't it?
Dx.

My preference is for smaller ladies (not skinny), but, if I loved someone, my love woukd not change..I hope..I like to think I have more calss than that..

Hi Lene..

First off look in the mirror and ask the same of yourself. I have been through "thick and thin" with more than one woman and they have been through it with me too. simply put it does not matter. I do love all women and find them beautiful in some way other than the packaging.

She was cheating on him eh?...

id love him all the same, but for his health i would cook him health meals and explain to him its only because of your health i want you to loose wait and no other reason and that i love you all the same

If you truly love the person there
should be no reason not to still
love him/her.

I would still love him. Though I would try to help
him loose weight if it became an issue of his health.
There are tactful ways to go about that as well. Without
hurting the feelings of someone you care so much for.

i totally agree with you there

Thanks Deb...

I just don't understand it when someone loves someone
until they gain weight. Makes you question what they
really loved or if they loved the person completely
and truly.

if thats the case there just going by looks, which is very sad.

people can gain weight from medication, its not always over eating. i think if they did a runner due to weight gain they couldn have loved you in the first place.

couldnt