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Yes it has...I have learned from every relationship I have had...what is acceptable to me and what isn't....I have no taste anymore for selfish, emotionally unavailable men...

That's interesting, Girlnextdoor. When I was young, it was all about looks, regardless of how ludicrously incompatible we were otherwise. I eventually arrived at a formula: if a lady meets my minimum requirements physically, then it all comes down to her personality/character. In that scheme a beautiful woman has no significant advantage over a "merely" decent-looking woman. When I've searched through the profiles now, I look mainly for common values and personality. There are large numbers of decently attractive women here (and elsewhere), so basically my search has consisted of comparing information in the profiles.

Of course. I try to learn from past mistakes, which is very helpful regarding my present decision making abilities...

No...

I still am attracted to smart, funny, tall, physically fit guys who have a full head of air and a zest for life.

Unfortunately, guys my age don't seem to fit that description

And the younger ones are just looking for a bankroll, a green card or a mommy.

Oops, what a typo that was..."a full head of AIR"???

I meant HAIR, darn it!

It's changed drastically, I used to love the danger and excitement of the bad boys, was always attracted to men who were not emotionally unavailable, it always felt safer to me... you know right from the start it's not going to last... so no loss, that has however backfired a couple of times and falling in love happened, on both sides.

I have struggled for years with a fear of commitment, I'm not sure why because I have never had anyone leave me, I think it's remembering the pain I caused some men in my calloused youth. I think I've gotten past that fear, at least I hope I have.

I'm now more interested in someone who is available, that takes an interest in what I have to say and the things I have done and am doing in life, as I do with them and what they have to say. Someone who is ready to have a partner to create a life with, not just exist side by side with. And yes, I have gotten very particular about character traits, they have to be passionate about life, intelligent, not take themselves to seriously, and enjoy all the little day to day things, have a kind nature and of course there has to be chemistry, that all elusive chemistry!

And here I actually thought I had a chance with you, J (reaching sadly for my blond wig). Few people have as much air in their heads as I do.

I believe it has...

past mistakes and experiences tend to direct the decision of a new relationship.

I have seen many things and have learned many lessons... and will not be tuaght them again.

I'am a human being and expect to be treated as one.

if too many things from the past become the situation of the present... then it is time to reevaluate the relationship.
We are a product of our enviroment... and the only one who can change that is ourselves.
To choose whether or not we will live with the same results as we have before.

If what you do bring the same results as it always has.
If you do not like the result you keep recieving.
Then change what you have been doing and look for a new way of living.

It is not easy to turn ones head when they experience the same things that have hurt them so many times in the past...

Your mind says... this one is different... your heart says, I can't do that again... in all this there becomes total confusion which will either make or break a relationship...

But if there is love between the two parties... then understanding is also present...
If no understanding or willingness to understand exsist then maybe the love is not as present as one would think.

If it is real and worthy it will stand the challenge of past pains which enact present fears...
If a fear from the past causes new pains and fears in the relationship ... then maybe the feelings of truly caring about another are not there.

It is not a good thing when one is being chastised for the past and the other will not even say why they feel as they do.

Relationship are either built or destroyed by the past whether we choose to believe it or not...

We are no longer in our twenties... life has thrown us many curves and we have seen so much in the past twenty years... it cannot be ignored that we have learned some very painful lessons and that is what causes us to be so cautious sometimes to the level that we would Destroy something that could be the best love we will ever know.

JMO

Yes have defiantely changed for the better. Use to go for the good looking bad boys myself. Now rather have someone who treats me with love and respect instead of looks. Like Alabamabebe use to think I had to make any relationship work. Now if I see it isn't good for me, will break it off.

Good point, Classic, but I'm just wondering why you feel you have to be "defiant" about it?

Sorry spelled wrong. Suppose to be definitely. Was a long night.

"Do you think your taste in the opposite sex has changed as you've gotten older?"

I bloody well hope so!!!

Only their ages have changed.

What Jodi said

See how you are? I have a head full of air but unfortunately, I have no hair. Oh well.

Hi Joanie.

Hi, Dave. How are you, my friend?

Sort of, mine has gone from bad to worse

Yes my taste has changed.
I am a lot more choosy than I was in the past.
I don't settle for just anyone, just to have someone.

That's a funny comment. I hope for your sake that you were exaggerating a little at least.

Yeah I agree Lass.. my taste in what I find attractive changed over the years.

I am waaayy too picky now too